Summary

The article emphasizes the importance of prioritizing a woman's pleasure and orgasm before the man's during sexual intercourse to enhance the overall sexual experience for both partners.

Abstract

The article critiques the unrealistic portrayal of heterosexual sex in media, where the focus is often on male satisfaction. It argues that sex is significantly improved when a woman's orgasm is the initial goal, suggesting that this approach reduces performance anxiety for men, increases natural lubrication, and can lead to multiple orgasms for the woman. The author encourages men to actively seek to satisfy their partners first, advocating for open communication and selfless acts in the bedroom. By doing so, the article posits that men will not only become better lovers but also contribute to a more sexually fulfilled and peaceful world.

Opinions

The author believes that the typical depiction of sex in movies and TV, which often neglects female pleasure, is damaging to real-life sexual expectations and experiences.
The article suggests that men may experience less performance anxiety when they focus on their partner's orgasm before their own.
It is the author's opinion that a woman's orgasm can serve as the best natural lubricant, leading to enhanced sexual sensation for both partners.
The author asserts that when a woman has already experienced an orgasm, she may be more relaxed and open to experiencing additional orgasms during continued sexual activity.
The article conveys the idea that a man's effort to ensure a woman's satisfaction can be highly attractive and can lead to a more enjoyable and mutually rewarding sexual relationship.
The author encourages readers to practice selflessness in their sexual encounters and to share this approach with others, framing it as a contribution to global peace and happiness.

Sex Is Way Better When She Comes First

It pays off to be selfless

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Movies and TV have done our sex lives significant damage. Watch pretty much any heterosexual sex scene in a random show, and the script tends to be the same:

A guy penetrates a woman for about five times.
He comes.
Guy rolls off her.
THE END.

I’m always left wondering, “Had she already come?”

It has happened to me that, while having sex with a man, he comes first. Then, he might “offer” to keep going. Well, yes! Of course we are going to keep going. We are not done. It takes two to tango…and the tango is not over until the two of us have taken, boy.

Still, I get it. Sometimes it can be a lot of pressure to know that the woman in your bed hasn’t had an orgasm. Some men can get anxious, uncertain of their skills, which is why I propose a little shift in the paradigm.

Reduced performance anxiety

So, there you are, pounding with all your might to no avail. If you are a conscious lover, you might be thinking, “Am I doing it wrong? What’s going on?”

Then, you orgasm, and she gives you that “oh-that-was-it” look. Malo…If this happens enough times, you might start questioning your skills.

However, what if you both worked together to make sure she will orgasm first? Then, my friend, you can relax. It has already happened, so everything that comes after that is a bonus.

Go ahead! Tell her you want her to climax first. That today’s mission is to make sure she will end up screaming in pleasure.

Ask her, “How can we make that happen?”

You will get her attention, as well as lots of useful advice. All you have to do now is put it into action.

The best lubricant ever

Do you know what’s more slippery than a dripping vulva?

No, seriously, do you?

I don’t.

True be told, a woman’s cum will make things go smoothly. If you devote your efforts to make her climax, you will be rewarded with lots of natural lubrication.

It will feel like silk!

So, work on her neck, her breast, her butt…use your mouth, your fingers, or the tip of your penis on her clit. If she asks you, begs you, to please just fuck her because she wants to come while you are inside her, all the better.

In any case, let me assure you, once you have known the feeling of a well-lubricated vagina around your penis, there will be no going back.

You will want to feel it every single time.

The chance for more

She has already had an orgasm. She is relaxed, satisfied, and happy. Your sex session keeps going, and, oh my, here she comes again!

How is this possible?

Well, few things are as sexy as a man that proves he cares. Just that alone might be enough to get a woman going again. Not only that: she will want to hear back from that man.

Shocking fact: a woman who enjoys sex with you, will want to keep having sex with you.

Who could have guessed that?

But don’t take my word for it

Don’t just believe me. Go out there — or in there, I don’t know your situation — and experiment.

Be selfless! Give and give and give.

Then check your results. Are things going better? Spoiler alert: yes, they will go better.

Oh! And don’t keep this advice to yourself. Spread the word, friend. We need a relaxed, happy environment out there. Contribute to achieving world peace by broadcasting this message of generosity.

It’s all for the common good.