Seven Most Common Signs Before You Are Cheated On
Dora’s Travesty of Justice
If you suffer from any of these seven signs, try to speak with your significant other, and or speak with a professional. These signs are noticed soon before the affair begins.
1-Irritable and picking fights
The abuser wants to put you in jeopardy so it’s easier to make you feel guilty. “It is all your fault.” “You caused it to happen” are common abusive comments to pick fights. These can be used to yell at you and hopefully make you emotional instead of hearing empowering statements such as “You deserve the best.” “I am at fault, not you.”
2-Avoidant with the abuser’s phone
People who don’t have something to hide, don’t hide. Here are some examples of avoidance: lying about the whereabouts of their phone, taking your picture off the home screen, adding security that wasn’t there before, making an excuse so you can’t look at the phone. Here are avoidant comments related to the mysterious phone “I let my friend borrow the phone. I didn’t call that person.” “I would never do anything wrong. You know me” just in case you find the cell phone first.
3-No intimacy
Holding hands, linking arms, arms around your shoulder, touching your body parts, and kissing are a few intimate acts one does. My research shows that sex is not always considered intimacy. It is only intimacy if you are in a loving relationship.
4-Being Gaslighted
Have any incidents turned on you and made you the victim? Here are some quotes “It didn’t happen that way.” “You are confused.” “You don’t remember properly because you don’t know.”
5-Being vague and mysterious
Here are vague comments. “I had an appointment, but it was canceled and I got busy at work.” “I can’t go to the party because I have to work late. I know that you’ll understand. Don’t you?” “I would go, but I have to cover another shift.”
6-Tells you about cheating while you are dating
This gives the abuser an excuse to cheat. Here are some quotes “I only cheated because it was the end of the marriage.” “I was forced into cheating. I couldn’t help myself.”
7-Trust your intuition
If you think something is up, it is.
You are worth the effort. The abuser is not. Be good to yourself. Remember to respect and love yourself. Tell the abuser that your feelings are hurt. Be ready to leave the relationship. Keep cash and a packed bag ready whenever you know it is time. I created Dora’s Travesty of Justice to tell my story in a safe environment. If you have a story to share, let me know.
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