Self-Love is the Root from Which Everything Else Grows

and here are some techniques so you can build yours.

There is absolutely no one who thinks only positive things about themselves all day and every day. Lack of self-love/self-worth/self-esteem starts from one thought. That thought is, “I am not good enough.” And most of us think we are not good enough as we are.

“I am not good enough” is the reason why most people today are running the eternal rat race.

The thing about self-love is that you will never get it from someone else. You have to build it yourself. It’s always an individual process, even if some of us were really lucky and had good parents or caregivers that showed us how to build our own self-love.

Ask yourself, “How am I enough?”

Often we only focus on what we aren’t enough instead of what we are. The problem here is that if you focus on lack, you will pretty much get more lack. Take your focus out from your lacks, and shift it to what you appreciate and value about yourself.

Change what you believe about yourself

Simply by changing your thoughts. A belief is nothing else than a thought that has been thought repeatedly throughout your life. So much that you no longer take the effort to think that thought. That thought becomes a neural connection that is now in charge of bringing that thought into reality. This means that it stays in your subconscious mind. It works in the same way as when you brush your teeth every morning — you don’t really need to think about it, do you?

It’s automatic.

So if you find a thought about yourself that you’re constantly thinking about, try finding from where it comes from. Where did it start? When was the first time in your life you thought that thought? If you try getting to the origin of that thought, you may find it came from your parents, a friend, or some experience you had as a child.

You have to leave that thought with where it belongs to. It is simply something you adopted and took it as yours. But in fact, it’s not.

Find those thoughts and replace them with better thoughts.

Your brain is an incredibly complex tool. Tell your brain to hunt for aspects that you appreciate about yourself. And think about them. Constantly. If you need, pretend you’re talking to a friend.

What would you say?

Answer this question: What would someone that loves themselves do?

The idea is to build a habit of answering this question in every moment of your day, so then you don’t need to make an effort to think about it anymore.

This may sound like a small thing, but it is a challenging process that someone can do. Why? Because you will be facing more of your demons than you can possibly imagine. But if you continue, you’ll get on the quickest route to self-love.

Asking yourself what someone who loves themselves would do, knowing the answer, and doing it is how you can get anything you want in life.

Your worth didn’t go anywhere. It is right there waiting for you.

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“When we plant a rose seed in the earth, we notice that it is small, but we do not criticize it as “rootless and stemless.” We treat it as a seed, giving it the water and nourishment required of a seed. When it first shoots up out of the earth, we don’t condemn it as immature and underdeveloped; nor do we criticize the buds for not being open when they appear. We stand in wonder at the process taking place and give the plant the care it needs at each stage of its development. The rose is a rose from the time it is a seed to the time it dies. Within it, at all times, it contains its whole potential. It seems to be constantly in the process of change; yet at each state, at each moment, it is perfectly all right as it is.”

— W. Timothy Gallwey

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Good luck. 🌞

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