Sacred Spirituality and Sexuality

There is more to it than just coming out

Both my sexuality and my spirituality are sacred to me.

I have always held my sexuality close to me. In the past and for a long time though I didn’t respect it. I wasn’t in tune with my own needs and desires enough.

My connection with my spirituality came later. Now I am learning more and more just how closely related the two of them are, in general, and to me.

For a long time, I focused on pleasing others and putting their needs first.

I didn’t even allow the space for my sexuality to be defined for myself.

This led to confusion and the feeling that I needed to fit both my sexuality and my spirituality into a box.

I believe sexuality is fluid though, just as spirituality can be. I believe they are both ever-changing and this is the part of the journey I am most enjoying now- the exploration, the evolution.

Sexuality and spirituality are closely linked for me I’m now discovering more and more.

To come out or not to come out?

This Is often the question for those of us who identify as something other than straight. Bisexual is the label I most closely relate to if I had to put a label on my sexuality for someone.

Sometimes I do ‘come out’ and sometimes I don’t.

Just like sometimes I do tell people I am spiritual and sometimes I don’t.

My choice to share my sexuality and spirituality is my choice and often I don’t with either unless I feel I want to, or someone asks me.

My sexuality isn’t just about what person I want to be intimate with but also about what person I am attracted to- their gender is irrelevant. Sometimes to put a label on me feels too restricting, sometimes it feels right.

It depends on so many factors and how I feel at the moment.

I have fallen in love with men and women and know this is a part of who I am. And I have connected both spiritually and sexually with both men and women. I’m drawn to people for a variety of reasons and gender doesn’t seem to define my preferences.

“In the art of sacred sexuality, our bodies meet to physically express what is felt in our hearts and souls.” ― Michael Mirdad, An Introduction To Tantra And Sacred Sexuality

My sexuality and spirituality are linked more closely now because I am more in tune with myself in both areas. I deeply feel the energy of others and this can be both a spiritual and or a sexual experience.

After all, sex is often a spiritual experience, just as a spiritual experience can be sexual.

Spirituality and sexuality are much more closely related than our society and most people recognize.

The ways I bond with people are multidimensional- oftentimes I have had connections I can’t logically explain or do justice with words.

These connections transcend the definitions that can fit into certain labels. They exist as the moments that reaffirm the connection of spirituality and sexuality to me.

Both my sexuality and my spirituality are based on my own experiences, ongoing learning and knowledge, and my truths and beliefs.

I do not follow a defined doctrine in either part of my life.

I want to be spiritually and sexually free to explore my ever-changing inner and external landscape.

There is a powerful relationship between sexuality and spirituality in the human psyche. Sexuality is not simply a strong biological urge; it has a spiritual reality. Down through the ages, mystics have known and taught that sexuality is the outer physical manifestation of a spiritual urge to have mystical union with God, or to re-establish an intimate relationship between the human soul and the eternal Spirit. — universityofmetaphysics.com

Many people struggle to understand this, but I am learning more and more that there are many things people will not understand about you and that’s okay.

I hold both my sexuality and spirituality as sacred parts of myself now.

The deeper I get involved in learning about both, the more I am excited to explore.