Respect and Honesty

Summary

The author reflects on the evolution of their personal values, emphasizing the importance of respect and honesty in their forties, and how these values have become the foundation for all their relationships.

Abstract

In an introspective piece titled "Things I’m learning in my forties," the author shares their journey of understanding values. Initially perceiving values as fixed and inherited from ancestors, the author now appreciates that values are shaped by experiences and connections. Entering their forties, the author has come to prioritize relationships built on a foundation of respect and honesty, both in personal and professional spheres. They express gratitude for the life stage that allows them to be selective about whom they associate with, valuing quality over quantity in their interactions. The author acknowledges the ongoing nature of learning, particularly regarding the significance of mutual respect and honesty, and is thankful for the people who have exemplified these values in their life.

Opinions

Values are not static but evolve through personal experiences and connections with others.
Respect and honesty have become the most important criteria for the author in choosing whom to associate with.
The author values the wisdom gained with age, which has led to a more discerning approach to relationships.
There is an appreciation for the learning process that continues into one's forties, with a focus on gratitude for meaningful relationships.
The author prefers to end connections that lack mutual respect and honesty, seeking out relationships that align with these core values.

Things I’m learning in my forties

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My whole life I’ve had a certain set of values I’ve lived by. Things ingrained in me by my parents, my family.

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I saw values as a black and white thing. Set in stone.

In my forties, I’m learning a thing or two about values. And I’m so glad. That in my forties – I am still learning. So grateful.

I used to think values were hard-wired. Set in stone. Handed down through generations. Ancestors. Years. Millennia. What I’m learning now is values are handed down through experience. And connection.

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For me in my forties, every single one of my most important relationships, either business or personal, now have a bedrock of respect and honesty, as their foundation.

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When you’re in your forties, you’re at a stage of your life where you’ve had a decent amount of life experience. So it behooves you to take your time building relationships.

And for me, that has naturally transitioned to a place where I take my time being choosy about who I work with, and who I hang around with, in my personal life.

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I need to know the person I’m working with or spending time with, respects me. And that I respect them. And that there is mutual honesty.

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Without these two values, it doesn’t work out for me. And I’d rather quietly let the connection go, so I can move forward to better fits.

But for those who have taught me the value of respect and honesty, I am deeply grateful.

I have so much to learn.

Happy learning.