Repetitive Trauma Accumulates

Dealing with consistent loss

There is such a thing as experiencing so much trauma that you become numb. But people are never really numb; they’re more temporarily incapable of feeling; it’s almost a defense mechanism to protect ourselves from being shattered and falling into painful darkness.

Every now and then, you experience a release; it might come in tears, outbursts, yelling/screaming, laughter, a weight being lifted, a breakdown, an unusual reaction, or something else. For some people, these releases come at healthy intervals. For others, their release comes too late, leading to them making costly choices that will alter the remainder of their lives or someone else’s life.

In the past several months, the deaths seem to continue piling up in addition to people becoming terminally ill. Sometimes, I don’t feel anything. But every now and then, I feel everything, and it is overwhelming; it’s a reminder that the grief is not done, I’m still human, I can still feel, and I need to continue taking care of myself.

Whenever you experience loss, don’t ignore it. Acknowledge it. It’s okay to grieve later if you’re not ready today, but always ensure you’re giving yourself time to digest everything. Loss and pain can weigh a person down inconspicuously, and if you’re not careful, it can wreak havoc on your life and your relationships.

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