RELATIONSHIPS

Relationship Problems — Sink, Float, Or Swim, Choice Is yours!

Learning to overcome challenges in life is a choice

Do you have any problems in your relationships? Let's face it!

Everyone has problems!

So what shall we do about them?

Grapple with it! Solve it! Or throw it out of your mind!

What do you think?

When people have problems with relationships, they feel sorrowful and there are anxieties in their life. Everyone has a choice. Continue to be sorrowful or think about your problem and see if there is a solution.

Relationships can be of several kinds. It can be a relationship between friends, A parent, and a child, or between couples.

They say sink, float, or swim the choice is yours,

The choice is yours. Take it or leave it! — Preeti Singh.

Relationship Problems

I have been thinking about relationship problems and I feel a problem is often a challenge before us.

We can think of problems as challenges and categorize them broadly into three types.

• The things that we can fix in our relationships by finding solutions to them. A choice of whether you want to fix it or not.
• The problems of relationships that we have to put up with it will remain with us whatever we do. We have the choice to stay or move out of it as things will not change.
• Some incidents in our lives give us sorrow in our relationships and cannot be solved. It becomes toxic. It is better to walk away from them.

The Relationship could be fixed

Relationship between two friends: There were two friends and a small incident created a problem between them. Amol had to go for an urgent matter to his hometown, and he left without informing his friend Tom.

The two friends Amol and Tom were working together on a project, and the project had to be submitted by the end of the month. Tom was angry, but he completed the project and submitted it.

He also signed a book with a publisher without the name of his friend Amol on it. Earlier they had thought that they would co-author it.

Amol should have said sorry, but he did not and chose to distance himself from Tom. They could have fixed this problem, but Tom did not find Amol repentant at all. He decided to walk away from it.

It was a choice made. The relationship could have sailed through but no effort was made and so it was a relationship lost. They had the choice of becoming friends again, but they grew apart. They did not ever meet again in their life. It is a relationship lost forever.

A relationship completely sunk.

There was no choice. Take it or leave it.

The relationship between father and son :A son was scorned by his father all the time. “You did not do this correctly. You are stupid. You do not pass your exams.” It was completely abusive.

The father was no saint. He had made enough money and would keep showing off. He wanted his son to beg him for getting wonderful clothes, for going out with his friends, or for buying new products like other children.

Although they lived well, there was never a word of praise and the young lad tried to talk to his father about it. He tried to communicate. Tried his best. The father did not relent. The son became quiet. He had become used to being abused by his father and beaten by him several times.

His family wanted to help him, but he began to isolate himself and did not want to talk about it. His mother tried, but, but he just whisked her away because it was a problem with his father and he did not want to involve her in it. He also wanted to be independent in his thoughts and dealings with his father.

There was no choice of fixing things. The son walked away and never met his father again. The son isolated himself from everyone and never came back. Who suffered? The whole family. The family had no role in the father-son problem and wanted to help, but neither the father nor the son was ready to talk to others.

The son walked away, setting up his own life. The father later fell sick but the son never came to see him. The father had lost his chance, and neither met ever again. This was a very sad story, and the relationship sank. There was no floating and no swimming.

The Relationship could not be fixed

Relationship between two married couples: A young couple, Sheena and Raja, were in a relationship of love. They got married and had a son and a daughter. Six years had passed, but then bickering between the two started.

The two of them lost their companionship. They had no common interests at all. She would not go where he went, and vice versa. They kept on bickering all the time.

The wife complained that her spouse did not take care of her or respect her. She wanted a lot of admiration and made a lot of demands. She started blaming his loyalty and trust towards her.

Raja was terribly hurt and tried to speak to her and tell her how much he cared for her, but she would not listen.

They both loved the kids, but kids were also tired of their parents' toxic relationship.

Ultimately, he decided to walk away when it became a violent relationship. He cared for the kids and her and decided to keep them comfortable but not stay with her. She had lost him. He continued to be responsible for the kids.

He walked away from a toxic relationship. The relationship had sunk.

Let us analyze how the relationships could swim and not sink.

The key to solving problems are mainly two. These special keys are communication and opening the doors and listening to others. If you are ready to do so, most of the problems get solved.

• The most important step is to communicate with each other. Most of the problems in all the above cases were because of a lack of communication.
• Communication with friends, children, family, a spouse is so important for a healthy relationship.
• Counseling from other people also helps, provided you are open to listening. Keep your mind and thoughts open. Whenever there is a problem, we close the doors ourselves, and the relationship breaks.

To conclude

Relationships are not like broken taps that we can change or plates that we can replace. They are very precious. We should try and fix it wherever possible.

The two most important ingredients for a healthy relationship are free communication and an open mind ready to listen to problems.

You can swim through the problems or float or sink but the relationship will never come back even if you want it back. It will be too late. It will sink and it is gone for ever.

The choice is yours how you want to deal with it. If you want the relationship Just don’t make it too late.