Real Talk: Mothers Cannot Raise Boys To Be Men
And If Mothers Think They Can, THEY ARE WRONG
“Boys NEED their Fathers like daughters need their mothers.” — Maxwell Jordan
Somehow though, this idea that a mother can DO IT ALL has embedded itself in the “Independent Woman” zeitgeist of today’s generation of women.
This “Independent Woman” NONSENSE is hurting many young women and worst of all THEIR CHILDREN.
Now, I am not advocating that all women NEED men in their lives.
Not all women are looking for a relationship — and, you know what, more power to them.
But a CHILD, a BOY NEEDS HIS FATHER in his life.
And the nonsense that many of these toxic mothers do to their children and their husbands hurts everyone.
Toxic mothers are such ASSHOLES.
I don't care how much you may “fweew” you love your son.
I don't care how much you may “believe” in your son.
I don’t care how much you may think you “value” your son.
Mothers…SINGLE MOTHERS…LISTEN TO ME, A MAN who grew up with a single mother…
YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH TO RAISE A BOY TO BE A MAN.
A mother will not ever be able to raise a boy to be the BEST MAN that he could possibly be.
I dare say, a mother will never be able to raise a boy to be a man.
Now, this is not an attack, nor is this a denigration of your parental style.
More than anything, a child needs a supportive role model in their life to help them navigate through lives uncharted paths.
Much as we prize and cherish our young girls, so too must we with our young boys, the young princes that we want to be future KINGS!
Because when shit hits the fans, people call on MEN, to come to solve the issue.
In this article, I want to explain why mothers are incapable of raising boys to be men.
If you truly love your son, then you will understand that as a woman, you DO NOT HAVE THE MINDSET, the PSYCHOLOGY, the HEART OF A MAN to raise your son to be a man.
Single Mothers STOP With Your Nonsense: You Are Hurting Your Own Flower
1 — Emotional Incest
“But look at how much those basketball players love their mamas!”
A lot of these mothers view their sons as replacements for their husbands or the guy who got them pregnant.
Hell, I think many of these toxic women want sons in their lives because we are most often times seen as a male who would never ever leave her.
And this is FUCKED UP on so many levels.
These young boys have to grow up fast and learn to “be the man of the house” because of mama’s bad decisions in life.
And I get it, we have all made bad decisions in life — and sometimes, the father sadly passes away (such as in my case).
But for many of these “mothers” out here, they enact perhaps one of the vilest emotional abuse on their sons that I can think of and actually think it is love, and that is emotional incest.
No longer is the son, A BOY, who has to learn how to become a man, he is now just THRUST into the manhood role.
He loses out on his childhood and that right there is a crime.
He starts to think it is HIS job to PROVIDE for his FUCKING PARENT.
“Oh, woe is me, for being a single mother.”
It sucks that you have to be a single parent, BUT YOU ARE A PARENT, and YOU HAVE TO STEP UP, not your fucking child.
So kindly shut the hell up and DO YOUR DAMN JOB instead of THRUSTING IT ON YOUR FLOWER, YOUR CHILD, YOUR SON!!!!!!
You are killing our masculinity by not even allowing it to fully develop correctly.
For many of these self-pitying mothers, they honestly believe that their sons have to grow up fast and provide for the family because you know, being the goddamn mother does not require you to provide for your children.
Because we all know that “mother” is just a title, it is not a role!
I highly recommend that you give this article a read as the author (Moshitadi Lehlomela) writes out the effects of emotional incest on a son who is now viewed as the man of the house.
Real talk, many females should NOT be mothers.
“It takes a WOMAN to be a mother, not a female.”
2— Women Are Indecisive, Men Are More Decisive
I swear to the almighty in the unknown I think many females have this idea that being a man is just something innate in ALL BOYS?
Becoming a man is a rite, it is a passage, it is a journey.
Unlike girls who have physical qualities that show their maturity (they get their period) boys really don't have that.
For young boys, there are trials and tribulations that we must go through in order to become a man.
Strength requires training, whereas weakness requires NOTHING!
This is exactly why so many people fight for their weakness and for their victimhood status.
And I say this, and I know I will get hate for this, many females are incredibly weak — and mostly because you are INDECISIVE.
What?
Tell me, I am wrong!
“There are stark differences between how men and women make decisions. Women’s significant reliance on others plus a reluctance to make a wrong decision points to a measurable lack of confidence compared to men.” — Economic Voice
Now I am NOT writing this to aggress readers, but to better defend my position that single mothers alone are not good enough to raise boys by themselves.
In your indecisiveness, you will subconsciously place this INFERIOR WAY OF THINKING into your sons.
Thus prompting them to always try to be PERFECT in the eyes of STRANGERS.
Always make sure they seek the approval of STRANGERS.
Always make sure they make a good impression with STRANGERS.
See a father is going to teach his son how to not give a shit what STRANGERS think of him, unlike mothers and unlike women.
Men, WE DO NOT GIVE A CRAP WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF US.
It’s what we think of ourselves that matters.
And because women desperately seek the approval of others, single mothers, will teach this NONSENSE to their sons.
As well as, simultaneously thinking a boy must not care about the opinion of the world.
However, a son must always care about what his “mama” will think of him.
Toxic mothers, I reiterate, are ASSHOLES!
3 — Boys Need Fathers Like Daughters Need Mothers
I was speaking with someone, whom I am hoping will someday be a close friend, about the difference in how fathers and mothers raise their kids.
What I had said to her, to which she agreed, was:
“The difference between a mother and a father parenting style can be summed up like this. When their child falls, the mother will go over there pick the child up and kiss the boo-boo. A father will tell their child to “PICK THEMSELVES UP.”
Single mothers…stop with this nonsense that you can do it all — BECAUSE YOU CAN’T.
Women, NOT ALL OF YOU, are collectivists by nature.
So the idea that you can be this lone wolf and go it alone is nonsense, when it is clear that women do a hell of a lot better when they are part of a pack, part of a unit…PART OF A FAMILY!!!!
What is so bad about this train of thought, being a “Proud Single Independent Mother”, is that you are hurting your own flower by thinking you are good enough alone to raise a BOY to be a MAN.
Do you realize the psychological STRESS and BAGGAGE you place on us, at such a YOUNG AGE?
Men and women do not have the same energy, psychology, physicality, and essence.
And there is NOTHING wrong with that.
It is okay for women to be sensual, to be emotional, to be supportive, to be loving, and caring.
That is how you have been designed…or how you have evolved (whatever floats your boat here.)
Of course, some women are different (which I find stupid to even have to write, as no one is the same as anyone else).
Men are different.
We are more decisive. We are more emotionally stable. We deal less with insecurity.
And these are things that MAY very well come innately for some men but for many of us, they are lessons that we learn from our FATHERS.
Single mothers if you really love your son, you’d stop keeping them from the FATHER who wants to be in his life.
You’d make sure he had a male role model in his life if your husband unfortunately died.
This can be an uncle, a cousin, a grandfather, a close friend you admire, a coach.
But it is so important that you allow your boy to be GUIDED by a man and not solely by yourself.
Because believe me, YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH ON YOUR OWN.
And if you really cared for your sons, you would accept this truth!
Rant over!
#boysneedfathers
