Read This If You’ve Ever Lost Friendships

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couldn’t help but feel the deep pain in Coodie’s voice when he talked about how he and Kanye grew apart when Kanye had become a successful rapper.It got me thinking about all my friendships and how at some point we all grow apart as life draws us in different directions. It’s something that I have come to accept even when I was a kid.I would cry at the thought of my visiting friends and family leaving our house and wonder how we can be together forever. I heard the Yoruba saying ‘twenty kids cannot play together for twenty years and it has been the guiding principle behind all my friendships.So if you are feeling lonely recently, have no friends or it seems all your friends have left you, here are a few ways to deal with the harrowing feeling<ol><li>People are meant to be in our life for a season: If we could bottle our feelings and emotions, especially the positive ones, we would. We always want things to stay the same. We have simply grown accustomed to them and our routine but as sad as it may seem, some people are only meant to be in our lives for a season.</li><li>Things happen for a reason: Even the fight you had with your friend has left you devastated. We might need to rid ourselves of certain people because we need to find our way back to ourselves. The people around us influe

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nce us in ways we can’t even imagine, it could be that you need to go find yourself or your voice devoid of the herd and you shouldn’t force your way back.</li><li>It is okay to miss them: In the film Eat, Pray, Love when Julia Roberts was missing her ex-boyfriend on her trip to India, and she couldn’t seem to move on, her friend to her ‘miss him, then release the feeling,’ the fact that you have grown apart doesn’t mean you don’t miss the time you spent together, miss them then wish them love and light.</li></ol>I consider friendships to be a strong integral part of our lives, for some they come and go and some are lucky to have lifelong friends, they evolve together it is almost as if they are soul mates. I am open to making new friends all the time and I look forward to the souls I would connect with.You should connect with me on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/toyinzuleiha/">instagram</a> and <a href="https://twitter.com/toyin_zuleiha">twitter</a> or sign up for my online course on <a href="https://www.skillshare.com/classes/How-to-Put-Yourself-Out-There-On-Social-Media-With-Ease/1360214495?teacherRef=237736777&via=teacher-referral&utm_campaign=teacher-referral&utm_source=ShortUrl&utm_medium=teacher-referral">How to Put Yourself Out There With Ease on Social Media</a></article></body>

It can be a very painful experience

Friendships have been a very integral part of my life. I can’t even remember a time when I didn’t have friends. The kids we lived together in the same building with, my classmates at school and children I attended the same Islamiyya with were all part of my peer community as a child.

It became glaring to me as a child that these communities might not be permanent when I heard the saying that ’twenty kids can’t be friends for twenty years,’ and I found a way to accept that. I enjoy the moment with my friends but I always know in the back of my mind that things might change, plans might change, the course of our lives might lead us in opposite directions.

Understanding that realization has not made it easier for me to deal with the loss of friendships and boys! Does it happen more often now as an adult?

Watching the Kanye documentary, I couldn’t help but feel the deep pain in Coodie’s voice when he talked about how he and Kanye grew apart when Kanye had become a successful rapper.

It got me thinking about all my friendships and how at some point we all grow apart as life draws us in different directions. It’s something that I have come to accept even when I was a kid.

I would cry at the thought of my visiting friends and family leaving our house and wonder how we can be together forever. I heard the Yoruba saying ‘twenty kids cannot play together for twenty years and it has been the guiding principle behind all my friendships.

So if you are feeling lonely recently, have no friends or it seems all your friends have left you, here are a few ways to deal with the harrowing feeling

People are meant to be in our life for a season: If we could bottle our feelings and emotions, especially the positive ones, we would. We always want things to stay the same. We have simply grown accustomed to them and our routine but as sad as it may seem, some people are only meant to be in our lives for a season.

Things happen for a reason: Even the fight you had with your friend has left you devastated. We might need to rid ourselves of certain people because we need to find our way back to ourselves. The people around us influence us in ways we can’t even imagine, it could be that you need to go find yourself or your voice devoid of the herd and you shouldn’t force your way back.

It is okay to miss them: In the film Eat, Pray, Love when Julia Roberts was missing her ex-boyfriend on her trip to India, and she couldn’t seem to move on, her friend to her ‘miss him, then release the feeling,’ the fact that you have grown apart doesn’t mean you don’t miss the time you spent together, miss them then wish them love and light.

I consider friendships to be a strong integral part of our lives, for some they come and go and some are lucky to have lifelong friends, they evolve together it is almost as if they are soul mates. I am open to making new friends all the time and I look forward to the souls I would connect with.