Read this if you Still get Triggered Easily or Notice Unhealthy Patterns Re-emerging

It’s happening again, your blood pressure starts to rise as you start to fall back into a victim and a blaming mentality based on the way your friends are treating you. You realize they are joking and don’t mean anything by it, but “dammit why do I always have to get so triggered” you may ask yourself!

Maybe you notice how you are continuously getting down on yourself as well.

Your friends teasing causes you to get angry, then you start getting down on yourself because you feel like you shouldn’t get angry. You start beating yourself up because you are beating yourself up and the cycle continues into one endless self-flagellating black hole.

For just about anyone involved in self-improvement or wants to become more emotionally intelligent, this process is never going to be super linear and free from bumps in the road, that kind of defeats the purpose actually.

Noticing Patterns is Progress

It can’t be understated how a progressive growth in our overall awareness of ourselves and of others is absolutely critical to growth as a person. Lacking awareness is like not having a map or a GPS when we are trying to drive to a new location.

This awareness is the first step to start to change how we act and how we respond to challenging situations. It then requires a willingness to want to change and implement a new pattern into our lives.

Many people don’t even care or are too numb or apathetic about their unhealthy patterns to even do something about it. Your awareness and your willingness puts you in the top tier of motivated and willing humans working to make this world a better and healthier place!

Hold Yourself to a Higher Standard

You need to not settle for the apathy and the numbness, this is truly one of the most dangerous traps to fall into.

Apathy is the feeling like you just don’t care, but not in the good Mark Manson kind of way.

Apathy contains a heaviness to it. It is a glazing over of your peripheral senses making you foggy minded, tired, and weary.

The antidote to apathy is to confront the pain you are feeling within, and as I’ve just implied this is painful. No way around it.

Becoming aware means confronting the grief or the fear we feel within, and this is how we heal. When you get a physical wound, the first thing you need to do is to disinfect and clean the wound, which hurts like hell. It works the same way with our emotional pain and becoming aware of our triggers.

You and I are better than apathy, I know this because I’m writing these words and you are reading these words, so hold yourself to a higher standard and don’t let the lethargic wet blanket of apathy hold you down.

Very Small, Incremental Gains

When we are doing the dirty work of trying to improve ourselves and become emotionally healthier, we can’t expect that everything is going to be solved overnight or even next year.

This is an ongoing process, and in a way that is also encouraging because you always have a chance to be better.

Progress comes 1% at a time…no sorry, it’s more like 0.1% at a time, or even 0.01% at a time. The magic comes when we show up constantly and let all that good hard work compound.

You will always be course correcting on your journey. You and I are imperfect beings today as we were yesterday as we will be tomorrow as well.

Allow for awareness to be the foundation of becoming a less triggered and emotionally unstable person.

If you notice when you fall back into these patterns, good job, you are on the right track. Let the real work begin.