Positive vs. Negative
No, we’re not talking about batteries.
We all argue, says a therapist. Really, what if that’s not true?
The is no correct number of times that people argue or severely disagree. Therapists do agree that proper disagreements can tell each partner something they may not know about the other person. Is that enough?
Before you decide to cohabitate, there should be a great deal of thought put into the issue of putting two people together in a defined space that have never lived with the other and may have never been good roommates in the first place.
Depending on your personality, you may or may not be able to handle the unexpected with grace or anger.
Let’s first begin by asking if you are nearly always positive in unexpected circumstances or negative. If you put two positives together, there’s a higher anticipation of fewer arguments. Any other configuration will not necessarily produce that same result.
Universal Answer
Questions are the answer to preventing many disagreements and even misunderstandings. How does that work?
If you’re interested in someone enough to move in with or marry them, you should want to know all that you can find out about the other person. Yes, birthdays and favorite colors are something, but not enough. What makes them angry? What do they like or hate in relationships? What do they expect?
Those are just the tip of an iceberg-sized pile of questions that should be asked of each other.
The question becomes, should or shouldn’t I become involved? If it’s important to you, do the work and really get to know the person. If you truly care for one another, a few more days or a couple of weeks shouldn’t matter.
What’s your experience? What’s happy for you? Consider this:
Thanks for reading.

