avatarAshlea Morgan, PhD

Summary

The poem reflects on the anticipation of loss and the emotional turmoil associated with the potential death of a loved one, including the fear of unshared love, unfulfilled dreams, and societal judgment.

Abstract

The poem "Please pick up the phone" delves into the depths of preemptive grief, a profound sorrow that the speaker feels at the mere thought of losing someone dear. It captures the overwhelming wave of sadness that hits when imagining a future where their loved one is absent, considering all the shared dreams left unfulfilled, words left unsaid, and love left unshared. The speaker grapples with the pain of potential loss, the societal scrutiny that follows, and the complexities of how the deceased is remembered and symbolized. Despite the phone call that reassures their loved one is not lost, the poem acknowledges the stark reality that loss is an inescapable part of life, affecting anyone without discrimination.

Opinions

  • The speaker is consumed by a preemptive sense of loss, grieving for a future where their loved one is no longer present.
  • There is a concern about the legacy and memory of the loved one, fearing they may become a mere symbol or name rather than being remembered as a full, complex individual.
  • The poem touches on the dehumanization and tokenization that can occur in the aftermath of a loss, highlighting societal tendencies to judge and categorize the deceased and their grieving relatives.
  • Despite the reassurance of a loved one's immediate safety, the speaker acknowledges the ever-present possibility of loss and the universality of such an experience.
  • The speaker is preparing emotionally for the possibility of loss, recognizing the need for strength and the importance of holding onto the essence of who their loved one is, was, and will always be.

“Please pick up the phone”

A poem about preemptive grief

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A wall of grief overcomes me

I think of losing you

I think of a time you don’t come home

Worry and deep knowing that something bad has happened

I think of the love unshared

I think of the plans cut short

I think of the things unsaid

I think of the purpose unfulfilled

I think of a world turned towards us

Judging how I look and my tears

Judging how you looked, how you acted, and the things you did.

Humanizing and Dehumanizing and Tokenization on both sides

I think of the tapestry you will be woven into

Life questioned as much as death

And we’re fighting for you, and I’ll need my rest for strength

And I’ll need to remember who you were and are and will always be, and…

You become a symbol of …

You become a name on…

You become …

No longer mine alone.

“Hello…” “Hello!” You are not lost,

but nothing changes the real

possibility that you or he or she or they is stolen from me

And it can happen to me too

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