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’” they said. </b>But an error would get you fired, so you did your best and held your breath and hoped you would still have a job in the morning. You were set-up to fail. That hostile environment wears a person down, they get burned out, and can’t do it anymore. Now you have anxiety and depression disorders.</li></ul><h2 id="6df5">Past breakups</h2><p id="bfb2">Recall the time your lover or lovers changed and left you without a word. He/she was the coward, not you. More trust and self-esteem issues are piling up.</p><h2 id="d9c9">Health</h2><p id="8c55">Ridicule and invalidation makes people sick and tired. It all works with the mind and emotions. Guess where all that is placed? In the body.</p><p id="1558">You have pain in your shoulders and back. You have red spots in your eyes and have stomach issues. To deal with all this some people drink, take drugs, over-eat, over-sleep, watch too much TV, play too many video games resulting in more fatigue; and even these self-medications cannot get rid of the fatigue. The constant weight on your shoulders that makes you so tired is never ending. FATIGUE=STRESS.</p><h2 id="30ef">Remedies</h2><p id="accc">On the bright side, some people are smart and exercise, rock climb, run, lift weights, ride bikes, walk, enjoy nature, read uplifting self-help books, meditate and play with animals.</p><p id="40d1">On the bright side, these items are significant and need to be done regularly to keep the demons away. Even if all fatigue stops, it comes back eventually when you are hit again with criticism, self-doubt, and overwhelm.</p><h2 id="6341">Forgiveness</h2><p id="9eca">The way to entirely get rid of all the demons is to forgive. Forgiveness is not saying it’s okay to treat me that way; it means I release you because I need to live and be and not have you in my head anymore.</p><p id="f3c0">One way to do this is in your mind’s eye, see them dropping something and walking away. Or put them on a cloud, with their tether attached to you, get scissors, cut the tether and kick them off! Watch them get smaller and smaller as they fall until you don’t see them anymore. I like that one the best!</p><h2 id="42f1">Prayer</h2><p id="a3d3">Also, for some, pr

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ayer works. It all depends on your religious convictions. When I was working and having a tough time at my job, I would say a prayer every morning in front of the altar I set up in my bedroom.</p><p id="97d6">It had figures of Angels, pictures of Mary and Jesus, a Rosary, flowers and some gemstones and candles. I would light a candle and say a prayer and ask for help to get through the day without problems. I would invoke all the angels and ask them to set up barriers around me at work and only let in positive people to help me. It worked and I could get through another two years of working there. I finally decided to leave.</p><h2 id="71bc">Self-care and self-love</h2><p id="e474">If you are suffering from these issues, you need self-care and self-love. What are you going to do? Are you going to take these people to your grave? Are you going to blame them all your life? They probably won’t show up at your funeral anyway. Give them the “o’l heave ho” and set them free. You don’t need the noise they are causing in your head or the unhappiness they are causing in your heart.</p><h2 id="ffee">Let the light in.</h2><p id="76c1">If you can’t do it yourself, seek professional therapy. I did it for two years and it helped me get through a hard time. It seems I may need more, but maybe not.</p><h2 id="2bea">Tapping</h2><p id="fa43">I am an avid supporter of <b>Tapping </b>by Nick Ortner’s “The Tapping Solution”. I was introduced to this while in therapy to help with emotional issues. Works like a charm and works quickly. Anytime you are sad or not thriving, you should try it.</p><p id="e508">Have a good life. You owe it to YOURSELF! And remember, there are tools to help. You only have to use them. Don’t sit and suffer when you can lighten up!</p><p id="00aa"><b><i>Jo Ann Harris</i></b><i> is an author, parent, book devotee, writer, copywriter, and film fanatic. She is an autodidact who learns about everything and rows her own boat. She grew up and worked in Atlanta, Georgia and lived there sixty years. She writes articles about love, hope, personal life stories, advice and poems. She is a published author with an article in Woman’s World magazine in October, 2017.</i></p></article></body>

People That Have Wronged You. Lighten Up!

They are always in your head affecting decisions you make by making you feel you are never enough, ever.

They are always in your head causing disruption when you need to be firm and direct and on point. You can picture them in your head saying what they said and making you feel inadequate. They are there sharing the pain with you over and over again.

They are always there. Sometimes you forget that they are still causing you remorse, anxiety and depression.

You hear their words, how they looked, and how it made you feel. You act and feel as though you are in a ditch and you can’t get out. You can’t decide without all these “what if’s” attacking. You feel stuck.

You suffer, they don’t.

You’re the one that is suffering, don’t you see? They have no thought of you anymore, after years and years have passed. Their denial, betrayal, treason, doubt, and pain have caused you to suffer endlessly and needlessly.

For example:

Remember the time in grammar school when the teacher ridiculed you in front of the class? Now you are shy and timid and will not speak for yourself. You let life and people trample you.
How about the time your Mom called you names because you made, in her eyes, a bad mistake that would change your life? Now resentment and trust issues occur daily.
Remember the time you were fired because a lack of understanding that caused you to make mistakes. Their excuse was, well, you should have known, but in reality they just didn’t care and said they did not have time to explain and teach or nurture you in your position. Now you feel if you ask questions they will think you are stupid.
“Learn by ‘trial and error,’” they said. But an error would get you fired, so you did your best and held your breath and hoped you would still have a job in the morning. You were set-up to fail. That hostile environment wears a person down, they get burned out, and can’t do it anymore. Now you have anxiety and depression disorders.

Past breakups

Recall the time your lover or lovers changed and left you without a word. He/she was the coward, not you. More trust and self-esteem issues are piling up.

Health

Ridicule and invalidation makes people sick and tired. It all works with the mind and emotions. Guess where all that is placed? In the body.

You have pain in your shoulders and back. You have red spots in your eyes and have stomach issues. To deal with all this some people drink, take drugs, over-eat, over-sleep, watch too much TV, play too many video games resulting in more fatigue; and even these self-medications cannot get rid of the fatigue. The constant weight on your shoulders that makes you so tired is never ending. FATIGUE=STRESS.

Remedies

On the bright side, some people are smart and exercise, rock climb, run, lift weights, ride bikes, walk, enjoy nature, read uplifting self-help books, meditate and play with animals.

On the bright side, these items are significant and need to be done regularly to keep the demons away. Even if all fatigue stops, it comes back eventually when you are hit again with criticism, self-doubt, and overwhelm.

Forgiveness

The way to entirely get rid of all the demons is to forgive. Forgiveness is not saying it’s okay to treat me that way; it means I release you because I need to live and be and not have you in my head anymore.

One way to do this is in your mind’s eye, see them dropping something and walking away. Or put them on a cloud, with their tether attached to you, get scissors, cut the tether and kick them off! Watch them get smaller and smaller as they fall until you don’t see them anymore. I like that one the best!

Prayer

Also, for some, prayer works. It all depends on your religious convictions. When I was working and having a tough time at my job, I would say a prayer every morning in front of the altar I set up in my bedroom.

It had figures of Angels, pictures of Mary and Jesus, a Rosary, flowers and some gemstones and candles. I would light a candle and say a prayer and ask for help to get through the day without problems. I would invoke all the angels and ask them to set up barriers around me at work and only let in positive people to help me. It worked and I could get through another two years of working there. I finally decided to leave.

Self-care and self-love

If you are suffering from these issues, you need self-care and self-love. What are you going to do? Are you going to take these people to your grave? Are you going to blame them all your life? They probably won’t show up at your funeral anyway. Give them the “o’l heave ho” and set them free. You don’t need the noise they are causing in your head or the unhappiness they are causing in your heart.

Let the light in.

If you can’t do it yourself, seek professional therapy. I did it for two years and it helped me get through a hard time. It seems I may need more, but maybe not.

Tapping

I am an avid supporter of Tapping by Nick Ortner’s “The Tapping Solution”. I was introduced to this while in therapy to help with emotional issues. Works like a charm and works quickly. Anytime you are sad or not thriving, you should try it.

Have a good life. You owe it to YOURSELF! And remember, there are tools to help. You only have to use them. Don’t sit and suffer when you can lighten up!

Jo Ann Harris is an author, parent, book devotee, writer, copywriter, and film fanatic. She is an autodidact who learns about everything and rows her own boat. She grew up and worked in Atlanta, Georgia and lived there sixty years. She writes articles about love, hope, personal life stories, advice and poems. She is a published author with an article in Woman’s World magazine in October, 2017.