Partner Selection

Life Realities

What is the biggest mistake people make in their daily lives when choosing a life partner?

When choosing a lifelong partner, most people think about:

Romance, love, affection, sex, and adventure.

The reality is that the vast majority of time spent together looks like this:

Household chores, cooking, paying bills, watching TV, driving, grocery shopping, etc.

The dishes don't clean themselves, and the house doesn't tidy up on its own. Someone has to do this work day after day for the rest of their lives. It's boring and repetitive, but that's life.

This is what you'll be sharing the most: your mundane lives. It's a common mistake to forget about this part, which will actually make up 99% of your life together. At some point, your partner may not seem as sexy anymore; is the rest enough to keep you together?

What does it take to live a mundane life with someone? Both of you need to be kind to each other. Saying cruel or hateful things, not being supportive, or being unfair and unreasonable are not things you can endure in the long term.

Even a mundane life has its ups and downs. The question is: do you come together to solve the problems? Or do you both walk away?

Your life partner is the other half of a team that includes you. Your contribution is equal to 50% of the whole. That's a lot.

In the long run, you'll face misfortunes, probably at least one terrible one.

When - not if - this happens, you and your partner will discover how emotionally strong you both are. Will it bring you closer and increase your trust and friendship? Or will it destroy you?

If you're not a strong and kind person, you have little hope of finding a partner who is. Emotionally strong people won't commit to someone who is shallow and selfish.

Is this a person you can take care of if they become disabled? Will they take care of you if you have this problem? Long-term relationships are built on devotion, friendship, kindness, and emotional strength. Not on romance, sex, and love.