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The website content discusses the author's experiences with societal stereotypes and misconceptions about his interracial marriage to an Asian woman, emphasizing the irrelevance of race in love and global citizenship.

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The author shares the insensitive and stereotypical comments he and his Asian wife have encountered due to their interracial marriage. These comments range from assumptions about his preferences for Asian women, to expectations that his wife must be a professional such as a doctor or engineer, to questions about their potential children's appearance. The author debunks these stereotypes by highlighting the diversity of careers among Asians, the richness of Asian culture beyond wealth and politics, and the irrelevance of race in his love for his wife. He emphasizes the blurring of racial lines in a multicultural society and advocates for a perspective that transcends race, focusing instead on shared humanity and global citizenship.

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The author refutes the notion that he has a fetish for Asian women, criticizing the trend of white men marrying Asian women as an over-exaggeration on social media.
He challenges the stereotype that all Asians are high-achieving professionals, pointing out that his wife, an engineer, is not representative of all Asians, and that many Asians he knows work in hospitality and other fields they are passionate about.
The author is frustrated by the assumption that marrying an Asian woman means he is moving to a dictatorship or that he or his wife are wealthy, highlighting the diversity of backgrounds and the presence of wealth inequality in Asia.
He expresses annoyance at people's curiosity about the physical appearance of potential children, arguing that the concept of race is becoming increasingly irrelevant in a society where racial lines are blurred.
The author values the multicultural aspects of his life in Australia, where he has embraced Asian traditions and cuisine, and he encourages a view

Painful Questions People Have When They Find out My Wife Is Asian

“That’s what happens when you live with and spend too much time with rednecks. You see a different race and get scared.”

People think I have an addiction to naughty Asian sites.

When I got married to my Asian wife, a former colleague said to me over Zoom, so you have an Asian girl fetish?

Apparently, there’s some trend of white guys like me marrying Asian women. If there is then I haven’t seen it. It’s likely a mass over-exaggeration, like most things on social media.

If you enter a mixed-race relationship, expect these dumb remarks.

Here are a few more.

So she’s a doctor, lawyer, or engineer right? Right?

I’m pretty sure not every Asian person is a doctor, lawyer, or engineer last time I checked.

Yet I get asked this question a lot.

Unfortunately for me, my wife meets the stereotype as she’s an engineer. She got inspired by her father who engineered some great landmarks across Asia.

Some of the smartest Asians I know work in hospitality. They don’t meet the stereotype, and they don’t care. They’re just doing what they love to do for work and fulfilling their food dreams.

The idea Asian people all go to university and get a generic degree has to stop. The internet changed all career paths, including the stereotypical ones.

Here’s a photo of my friend Eddie smoking a fat one.

He doesn’t give a f*ck what you think about his culture. He has a one-man writing business that he’s scaling to $1m per year. The guy ghostwrites for some of the biggest names on the internet.

Career stereotypes of Asian people need to die.

So you’re moving to her country to live in a dictatorship?

This one drives me nuts. If you’ve ever visited the Asian red flag country then you’d know it’s not like that.

Sure they have harsh rules. Sure they have internet censorship.

But that doesn’t mean their angry mofos running around hurting each other. Not like, oh, I don’t know, America that lets every person own a gun. A gun they can use on anyone they like if they have a bad day.

I found visiting the Asian red flag country quite calming actually.

It’s a different way of life. Family is a huge deal to them which it isn’t so much in Australia, where I live.

Still, not everyone will get Asian people.

One of my parents’ friends visited us over the holidays. She hadn’t met my wife before. She came upstairs to the kitchen to get something and chat. My wife was standing there. All of a sudden…

She looked like she’d seen a ghost.

A few minutes later she ran out of the house. No one was quite sure what had happened. Maybe she thought she’d met an alien.

One person in our house said, “that’s what happens when you live in the middle of nowhere and spend too much time with rednecks. You start to see a different race and get scared.”

So you married a crazy rich Asian?

My wife isn’t rich. Far from it.

She comes from humble beginnings. She shared a one-bedroom apartment with her parents for much of her childhood. Yet jokers always assume I must be rich because I married an Asian woman.

Apparently Asians never spend a dollar.

The Asian boom fuelled by the red flag country that manufactures a lot of stuff has made them all stinking rich.

Wrong.

The wealth inequality in Asia is just as bad as the rest of the world.

So what will your kids look like?

As soon as you get married people think you’re going to pop out kids in the next few weeks. It’s weird.

Then they start talking about what your kids will look like.

The truth is the lines of race are getting blurred. If my wife and I have kids then they’ll be part Asian, part Russian, part Australian, part English, part Irish.

Disclaimer for the fact-checkers: All of the parts of my ancestors are unknown, so there could be more labels to add. The lines between race in both our families are so blurred at this point it’s kinda stupid to say “mixed race.”

The older I get, the more I see humans rather than nationality.

Maybe I’m a weirdo or ignorant. Fair enough, I’ll cop it. In Australia we have a large multi-cultural population.

As a kid I never thought I’d marry an Asian woman. Many of my friends at that time didn’t like other cultures. They bullied kids from other backgrounds.

Then as I got older I spent time in a highly-populated Asian town in Melbourne. I met interesting people. I learned some of their language. I began to love eating dumplings.

In my hometown we have huge red Asian flag new year celebrations. I’m used to red pocket, firecrackers, dragon dances, and placing floating paper lanterns in the river.

To some, these things are part of a different culture.

To Australians who’ve grown up around a large Asian population, these are traditions for us regardless of the color of our skin.

It all boils down to this

Love is blind to race. Because we’re all global citizens.

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