avatarDon Martin, real-life writer

Summary

The text discusses the importance of cultural integration and the value of blending into society while maintaining personal standards.

Abstract

The author reflects on their interaction with a new immigrant friend who is actively engaging with the local culture both conversationally and musically. Despite occasional language barriers, the friend's cheerfulness and shared interests create a sense of belonging and comfort. The author emphasizes that fitting into society doesn't require abandoning one's identity but rather finding a balance where one can be outstanding by harmoniously integrating without insisting that society adapts to them. The narrative suggests that overemphasis on standing out can lead to discomfort and isolation, while a more fluid approach to cultural assimilation fosters a sense of community and shared experience.

Opinions

  • The author appreciates the immigrant friend's effort to integrate into the new culture, valuing his presence and the connection they share.
  • There is a belief that understanding and comfort can be achieved through shared interests, such as music, even when language is a barrier.
  • The phrase "You gotta get in where you fit in" and the Roman adage underscore the importance of adapting to one's surroundings to achieve harmony.
  • The author suggests that trying too hard to stand out can result in alienation, making others uncomfortable.
  • The text advocates for being outstanding through societal blend rather than forced distinction, implying that personal standards need not be compromised in the process of assimilation.
  • The author warns against the resistance to adapt, as it can lead to a metaphorical downward spiral, symbolized by "circling the drain with the current."

On Being Part of the Gang

Versus fighting the current for the sake of fighting the current

Photo by Mike Petrucci on Unsplash

I have a cafe friend, who is new to this country, where I get coffee some mornings. He probably is a part of our society more than some people who were born here.

He is doing his level best to catch up to our culture conversationally, as well as musically. He’s always cheerful, and I do enjoy his company, however, briefly.

Just this morning he said to me, “Good morning Mr. Properties! How ‘bout that loaf of meat? Sad, yes?”

“Yes, it is.” I knew exactly where he was, and what he had communicated. ‘Though his English may not have been perfect, I enjoy music too, so I understood and felt comfortable talking and commiserating with him.

I've often heard my kids say, “You gotta get in where you fit it.” When in Rome, do as the Romans do. People need to feel comfortable.

We can all be outstanding without trying to stand out. In fact, if we try too hard to make ourselves stand out, we stick out, and soon, we make others uncomfortable.

We can be outstanding by blending with society, but without necessarily adopting any practices that are contrary to our personal standards.

We can be less outstanding by insisting that society catch up to us.

Because then we start to circle the drain. With the current.

Illumination
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