Life | Perspective
Nothing In Life Is Ever Easy
But do you know what is, smiling, being, loving, nurturing, caring and vice-versa
We have all been told this phrase, perhaps a centillion (1¹⁰⁰) times — life ain’t easy, ya whippersnappers by the village elder as he adjusts his broken back.
From an early age, we are taught that life is hard. You only get one chance. But we are never given the freedom to express or even choose our life. It’s handed to us in ways we don’t even imagine.
We can’t because we are but an infant. We learn from what we see and hear. We are taught from the people who raised us, from the culture we are born in, and perhaps other aspects as well that condition us to believe without practicality.
We never test our beliefs, we always believe in the idea of things let alone understanding what they truly mean because people who are “older” said so. We take their word because if we give an argument it is substituted with frustration that sometimes ends up as our punishment.
But as we grow older, and get distant from such people we start to realize how much we have under our control unless we remain in such a system where we let people make us their slaves — we will keep on running on the same Ferris wheel until lights out.
I want to show you, how easy life really is for those who have a positive mindset and don’t let others make a slave out of them. When it comes to ourselves, I believe we put it or never truly understand it.
From an early age, we are detested by our looks, and judged by our appearance and status. Some of us who are lucky perhaps to have born in distinguished households, even face scrutiny at the hands of their loved ones.
We are all mixed in this mess of a life that becomes, but it’s so easy to understand ourselves. The best way is to perhaps take a step back and stand in front of a mirror and truly stare into the void of our existence. And understand who we really are.
Whenever I look in the mirror, I see something new — Sometimes I don’t even know what I really look like. Whenever I see myself, I see a change.
I see someone smiling back. Someone who is happy to be himself, And who believes we all need to accept ourselves more. When it comes to people in my life whether they are my friends, I choose to love them, and show them true compassion, without any filters.
I strive for an ultra optimistic mindset as well as a realistic one. See you can’t really put yourself on one side when you can put weight on ten or a hundred etc.. Because life should not be put into a perspective that is singular or so shrewd that it just makes us lose ourselves in the process.
If you lose, your life or what’s left of it is just a static picture. There’s nothing much in it, but what’s already there. There won’t be anything new. That’s why you should strive for a mindset that propagates and influences change. Because as your life progresses you change, we all do.
This argument, “never change” is faulty. We all change, sometimes life will push you to change and other times if you don’t — well life will through you into a state of disarray.
“They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for.” ― Tom Bodett
How we define our existence is through our choices. Happiness is a choice, so is love, care, affection, hatred, and so much. We can choose to forgive, and we can choose to move forward or we can choose to stay there where we are never striving for change.
See change can come in an instant, the process of change takes time. Adjusting to it, every day until it becomes a part of your life that will take time. But change is but a choice way, sticking to it takes time.
Developing a habit of change takes time. But we all have time, yet we don’t change because it demands effort. Somehow, we are taught to think this way through our school, through our parenting at times, when we take things for granted, we are taught to accept things as they are. Thus we never truly understand the fundamental concept of what change represents.
Life is easy, for those who can change. Change comes with a choice, a choice that you have to make.
Now some people would plan ahead, they will anticipate the after-effects of change while other people, might be choosing to take charge in haste and might suffer the consequences of such a choice. There are perhaps many ways we could choose to live our lives in peace. We certainly can, it’s very easy to do that.
I live a very peaceful life, I usually make smart choices. I buy what I really need, and I save what I don’t spend. Sometimes, when I am not out with friends I don’t usually spend at all. I believe in the concept of Having less because I have things nobody can steal. Carl Sagan said it best
“Look again at that dot. That’s here. That’s home. That’s us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every “superstar,” every “supreme leader,” every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there-on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.
The Earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of this pixel on the scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner, how frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that, in glory and triumph, they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot.
Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the Universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity, in all this vastness, there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves.
The Earth is the only world known so far to harbor life. There is nowhere else, at least in the near future, to which our species could migrate. Visit, yes. Settle, not yet. Like it or not, for the moment the Earth is where we make our stand.
It has been said that astronomy is a humbling and character-building experience. There is perhaps a no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly with one another, and to preserve and cherish the pale blue dot, the only home we’ve ever known.” ― Carl Sagan
Like Perspective, for example, people can copy it and use it using their own mindset. But nobody can steal a perspective. They can adopt it, but there’s no way you can steal someone’s perspective unless If I am mistaken and there is a way that one can.
But the gist of it all is that life can be really easy when you strive for the things that matter. Love and loving yourself is an essential factor of it as well as taking care of our physical and mental health is.
Caring for friends and family, we can choose to take care of them — give them our warmth and love. It doesn’t take anything out of you, it fills you with purpose. It makes life easy, but you have to give what you can replenish otherwise, you’d become empty — we don’t want that, as that leads to depression and worse things.
“Laughter is the wine for the soul — laughter soft, or loud and deep, tinged through with seriousness — the hilarious declaration made by man that life is worth living.” ― Sean O’Casey
Try to relax, take deep breaths, and look towards the bright side. Try to enjoy your life, and don’t take it so seriously. What’s the fun in that! Be optimistic, strive for a positive change, and use the negative impact to fuel the positive. Have an ultra optimistic perspective with a realistic mindset. Even if things go wrong, you would what to do, with excellent outcomes. Peace.
The Takeaway
- Strive for a positive retrospective.
- Make change through careful choices.
- Take care of yourself, your emotional needs and your loved ones as well
- Look in the mirror, compliment yourself — be kind you’re the only one who does.
- Breathe deeply, in stressful situations
- Lastly, smile through it all, love yourself, and laugh.
Thank you for reading.
