Not Everyone is a Seven
The one to ten looks scale isn’t fair, but it does exist
In one of my recent stories I referred to an ex-girlfriend as a near perfect 10. This prompted a friend of mine to ask how someone becomes a perfect 10.
The answer is, you can’t become a 10. No amount of plastic surgery, weight loss, or becoming a better person will make someone a 10.
Tens don’t really exist. It’s a small fraction of a fraction of a fraction of the population that’s ever a ten. Ten doesn’t last long. It’s perfection. It’s Brad Pitt from his mid twenties to mid thirties. It’s Gissele Busen from her late teens to late 20’s. It’s very rare to see one in the wild unless you live in one of the world’s fashion meccas.
The majority of the world are fours, fives, and sixes. The scale applies from the onset of puberty until close to death. You don’t age out of being attractive or unattractive. It just matters less as you mature.
The scale isn’t flat. It’s a bell curve. Tens are unicorns. Ones and nines are very rare, making up less than .01% of the population.
Common misconceptions
You can’t grade yourself and it’s unlikely a friend will be honest with you. Best bet is find someone with aspergers who has little to gain or lose regardless of their answer. Even then you’ll probably get a seven.
It’s not your age or weight. A seven is still a seven at 50lbs overweight. A good looking person remains a good looking person until their age or weight gets extreme.
It’s about looking at someone and knowing nothing about them except what you see. Are their looks remarkable or unremarkable? It’s a little hair and fit, but beauty always shines through bad clothes.
Guys might not admit it to each other, but we know who’s the ugly one and hot one in our group.
It’s something that exists but it’s not an excuse
How you look could put you at an advantage or disadvantage of attracting a partner, but it’s rarely the sole reason a person isn’t getting dates.
I find it’s a select group of twos and threes lacking a sense of shame who have the most sex. Everyone has a cousin who’s on their seventh marriage working nights doing security who got fired from the last place for having sex with someone. If you lower your standards far enough and have a few bucks to throw around almost anyone can get laid.
It’s not something that you can control
You look like what you look like. Life isn’t fair. Don’t be so hung up on looks. We’re all people and humans.
Stop using celebrities as a physical ideal. It’s a small percentage that gets to look like that. No matter how long you spend at the gym trying to get a body like whoever, you’re still you.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Personality goes a long way. So does money. But looks trump all.