New Year’s Dissolutions

Ending the Negativity

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I don’t make New Year’s Resolutions. If you do, no judgment from me. Perhaps you use the new year to mark the beginning of a goal and it’s easier to remember when you began. I think if you’re going to make a change, make it now. The turning of a calendar page isn’t going to magically change your life or inspire you to be a better person.

So many New Year’s resolutions get broken very quickly into the year. Then what happens? You become depressed or berate yourself for not being able to keep a simple commitment. Do you then try again? Start over? Not usually. You think,

“What’s the point in trying again? I’ll just fail once more.”

Instead of trying to commit to something new, I am going to get rid of something old. I am reflecting back on the year and I will summarize the things I have decided over time to dissolve or eliminate.

People

To quote Jerry Seinfeld, “People are the worst.” Maybe not all people, but there are people that I have decided don’t need to be an integral part of my life. I can’t completely cut them out–at least, it would be very difficult. I don’t have Jeff Probst to tell them that the tribe has spoken, and even if he did, they probably would keep coming to the tribal council meetings anyway.

I have an aunt that invited me to a Bible study. She then tried to make me feel guilty when I did not attend. I have nothing against Bible studies, religion, or practicing one’s faith. The problem is, my aunt is extremely negative and judgmental. Why would I want to be part of a gathering in the name of Christianity, yet oozing hypocrisy?

The other note of reticence came from a fear that she would use this as an opportunity to stage a “gay intervention.” It’s happened before with “friends” of mine in the past. Those people are no longer in my circle. My aunt, being part of my family, is much more difficult to cut out of my life. Even if I could, I don’t know if I would want to. I’m sure she is coming from a place of love, but it is just coming out as something much different. She does have good qualities… I’m just drawing a blank right now as to what they are. Even if I can’t avoid her, I don’t have to allow her to dictate my feelings or what I do as part of my life.

A Job That I Hate

I was working at a place that I disliked with people that I couldn’t stand to be around for very long and a boss I’m pretty sure could be described as bipolar. I hate to use this trendy term, but I’ll do it anyway just to annoy you. It was a “toxic environment.” Haha. Did you cringe? Throw up in your mouth a little bit? Yeah, me too. I had to go eat some chocolate candy to get the taste out. Yes, HAD to.

It was not a career-type position. It was merely a placeholder until I could find what I wanted. The trouble was, it took a long-ass time to finally get what I really wanted. I applied for so many writing jobs only to be passed over in favor of others with more experience in those specific areas, but I am now officially a freelance writer and being paid for it. It’s not a high-paying position, but I don’t care as much about that, as long as I like what I’m doing.

Even if I lose this job or have to quit for whatever reason, I’m not going to get trapped in a terrible job that is taking me nowhere. I didn’t give up looking for what I wanted, and it paid off.

As I grow my audience on Medium, I’m hoping that will help to supplement my income. You are helping to do that right now and I appreciate it.

Loneliness

I am single, but not loving it. I would like to be in a loving, committed relationship, but right now it’s just not happening. However, I am socializing, working, and spending time with family and cats. I don’t have to be lonely because I’m alone.

I am finding motivation in writing because of you, dear reader. You are part of the audience that has been growing these past few months and encouraging me to continue in this pursuit. Growing my following on Medium has taken a lot of time–reading, clapping, commenting, responding, and writing. After all of that, who has time for a boyfriend anyway?

Kambucha

Tried it — didn’t like it. Yeah, I know it’s healthy, prebiotics, etc, but I can’t do it and I don’t have to. I’ll do other healthy things. Kambucha? Can’tdutcha.

Invitation

What about you? Do you have any New Year’s Dissolutions? What have you gotten rid of or what should you get rid of in favor of being a happier person? Take this as your invitation. I’m not sure if I should tag anyone or not. Do people get tired of that? Oh well, screw it. I’ll tag Penelope Mayfield, Pierce McIntyre, Lark Morrigan, Benighted, robin wilding, Bruce Coulter, Jason Provencio, Veronica Llorca-Smith 💎, and Annie Trevaskis.

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