Never Negotiate Your Self-Worth

Are you bold and confident, or do you live to please others?

Are you living your best life? Are you bold and confident, or do you play small and live to please others? Are you who you want to be and comfortable in your own skin? Do not betray yourself to be “good enough” for anyone else because if you try, you will forever chase the virtual dangling carrot.

“Belonging is something we carry in our hearts.” ~Brene Brown

We cannot achieve a sense of belonging by pleasing other people. Do you know what I got by trying to please others? A sense of never being good enough. I felt like I was walking on eggshells and losing my own identity.

Have the courage to stand out. Standing out means having the courage to risk criticism. As a writer, I realize I am in the public eye. I cannot please everyone all the time, nor do I try. I write to awaken, inspire, and empower others to step off autopilot and live the life they love. As a result, some may disagree with what I write. I would rather they respectfully disagree than remain on autopilot.

Sure, it hurts when people stand against me and say mean things. However, I now know who I am. What people say no longer shakes me the way it once did when I was far less comfortable in my skin. When I was living to please others rather than living authentically, I was far more easily rattled.

The Law Of Attraction

I keep my thoughts positive. I believe in like energy attracting like energy. I do not engage with negative energy. I do not have to defend my point of view if someone is nasty about an article or critical. I will engage in a respectful conversation because I appreciate different perspectives as long as it is not a character assassination.

When we go about things in a kind, respectful way, we preserve our own self-worth, and others are more receptive to hearing our point of view and the message we have to convey.

What We Look For We Will Find

If I look for trouble, I am sure to find it. When I look for gratitude, I am sure to be in a better mood. We are sure to find what we look for, so why look for the negatives in life? People who want to tear you down and rob you of your self-worth will find a way. It is up to me to protect myself. No one can take away my self-worth unless I let them. They can launch a smear campaign, but the truth will free you. Eventually, people’s true colors always prevail.

Final Thoughts

Live in such a way that no matter what anyone says, people will remember who you are. I am proud of always rising above, even when it hurts. When I felt I was losing in the moment, I walked away the winner. When the bad guy smells like roses temporarily, his own thorns kill him in the end.

So let people talk, but never let them rob you of your self-worth. Hold your head high. At times, it is only you in the arena fighting for yourself and your dreams. Only you know the truth. And that is okay.

Be bold, stand out, and fight for your dreams. No one else will do it for you. Be your own cheerleader, your own advocate, and your own best friend. Be a fierce leader and a contender for others to follow and stand up to. Be a beacon of light and inspiration of hope to those who were told they were not enough.

You are enough.

You are worthy.

You can do anything.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I appreciate you. Please subscribe to my YouTube Channel, where I offer guided meditations and short videos on emotional intelligence, spirituality, and relationships.

Peace and light,

Libby

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