Never Doubt Yourself Again
A short conversation with Founder of Mind Cafe, Adrian Drew
“ A lot of people ask how I got to where I am, I think the key to that is I never question, I just do.” — Adrian Drew
Something shifted in me as I walked away from the conversation. It was so refreshing to hear something that was honest and from the heart. There is so much noise in the world out there, promising us massive transformation and results. If we are not careful, our attention falls into the trap of constantly being pressured to achieve, to be more and to look for the next big thing that will magically change our lives.
NO.
STOP.
I am saying no to this and have come to a deep realisation that we all have the necessary resources within us to get started and plunge into whatever we believe is true to our hearts. Stop looking for external assurance to tell you it’s the right thing to do. Stop questioning, judging yourself. Instead of focusing or wondering how you will get there, immerse yourself in it and let the outcome speak for itself.
I spent SO much time trapped in my own fears thinking ‘What if it doesn’t work out? Is this the right thing to do? Will writing take me anywhere?’ It sounds really silly and simple of me, but taking Adrian’s piece of advice, what if I just do and don’t question at all?
As we went further into the conversation, I realise another thing that is holding me back is what I have been identifying myself with. It’s so easy to hold on to certain identities and beliefs even though we have outgrown it ourselves. Being trained as a musician and teacher, I never ever thought I would end up wanting to write professionally. In fact, I always struggled with finishing my essays at university and dreaded them greatly.
Everything changed when I began to write for my own wellbeing and seeing how powerful it can be as a tool for processing thoughts and as a medium to shift thoughts and perspectives within minutes. I gained more and more momentum sharing about my life challenges, relationships and wisdom from my own experiences. But a little voice at the back of my mind was always lurking there and discouraged me from going any further, “Who are you to write? You are supposed to be doing something related to music!”
I took a step back and see that there is some dissonance within myself as I explore and try to make sense of who I truly am. I have evolved and I need to fully embrace and accept that. At this moment, if it is writing that is calling me, I have to step into it and not question. It is also a deep level of self-awareness in understanding WHY I write and a grounded self-belief that I don’t need to have more, be more to go further. I just DO.
(Thank you Adrain for his words of wisdom)
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