Never Ask A Woman What She “Brings to the Table”

She is the table!

“What do you bring to the table?”

If you ask a woman this question on a first date, I can almost guarantee that there will not be a second.

Women hate this question because we’ve been told, time and time again, that we are the prize.

Basically — we are the table.

So why should we be concerned with what we bring to it?

Well, I can think of a few reasons…

I admit, being asked this question outright by a man would be off-putting.

It translates to something like, “convince me that you have value.”

True value doesn’t have to be explained or justified. Nobody wants to have to explicitly “prove their worth.”

However, this expectation is frequently placed on men, and nobody bats an eye.

A woman is well within her right to ask a guy, “why should I give you a chance?” and people seem to think this is a perfectly valid question.

We’ve been socialized to view women as the prize and men as the pursuers. Men are used to jumping through hoops in order to prove their value to women.

But women, on the other hand, are consistently told that they don’t have anything to prove. Men should be interested just because they’re women.

That’s all good and well…if you live in a bubble.

In real life, this mentality doesn’t exactly hold water.

To be fair, I don’t think men SHOULD be asking this question on a first date.

BUT—every woman should be asking herself this question.

A woman should be introspective and humble enough to think about what she can reasonably offer a romantic partner.

Rather than getting angry at the thought that her own value might not be apparent, a woman should genuinely consider what makes her uniquely desirable.

Far too often, we focus on what we want out of a relationship, but what about what we bring to it?

Why do we place all the emphasis on what we can get rather than what we have to give?

This isn’t to be unfair to women.

Men tend to understand that they have to bring added value in order to attract a partner. They generally understand that they need to “bring something to the table” other than just themselves.

Women don’t always understand this concept.

So ladies, if you are single and looking to date, I challenge you to ask yourself questions that might make you uncomfortable.

What are you bringing to the table?

What makes you uniquely valuable?

Why should a man commit to you?

It’s better to ask questions and find answers than live in entitled ignorance.

Final thoughts

Some questions in life need to be asked — but not on a first date.

You don’t have to explicitly ask a woman what she “brings to the table” in order to determine the type of woman she is.

Find a woman who is willing to ask herself this question, and things will go much smoother for you.

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