Needs and Wants…
Are we really confused? Or does convenience trump discernment? {we’ll really never be able to use that word again, will we?}
I want, I want, I want… anyone with a kid, or who has ever been a kid, gets this one. Do we ever grow out of it? Not really. Our egos would rather we did not. We crave new experiences, and, if we’re honest, creature comforts. And, in the course of our learning, we find out how much of that is real and how much has been programmed into us by consumerism and ‘others.’ At least that is the hopeful trajectory of maturity. {results in this world, TBD}
I need… is something else entirely. To use myself as an example, I need, a roof over my head, a clean, comfortable place to sleep and meditate {nope, not reasonably comfy, the real deal}, immersion in nature, low population density, a tremendous amount of quiet, and the practices that sustain me. Clean, local, seasonal, organic sustenance as well. I forgot that one, once, and it was hilarious. Pristine wilderness without an organic vegetable for miles. We live and learn.
Some of those things might fall into someone else’s ‘nice to have,’ or ‘want,’ list. Some of them used to fall that way for me. First, I learned to settle. Some part of me bought into, “This is as good as things can get, given the circumstances.” And then, I learned again. Mostly the hard way. Sit with those words, “…given the circumstances…” You’ll feel what I mean.
Circumstances can change.
In point of fact, they do so constantly.
The energy I do not have to needlessly spend coping with ‘less than needed’ situations, is now available for investment in what matters.
The learning algorithm is simple. What matters? {radical inner honesty helps here} Am I investing in that? And, how much of me is invested elsewhere? Return to top of loop: What matters? Loop until clarity. {or a reasonable facsimile of same}
When most of me {or you} is invested in what matters, that, and usually only that, is what manifests. The truth? What matters to us manifests. Full stop. What matters to every. part. of. us. matters. Getting ourselves all on a page is part of the journey.
We can tell what matters by what is manifesting. From there, we undergo a refinement process, typically known as living, that functions like the Hogwarts sorting hat. One shakes out here, another there… some in between… and then we are sorted some more, and then again, and so on.
I do know what matters to me. Truthfully? I always did. So do you.
The trick is not in the knowing, it is in the follow-through.
What will you do with that knowing? Better yet, what will you allow Source to do through you, on your behalf, {wherein SHE always resides} that might be infinitely more exciting, fun, and adventurous than you could ever have imagined?
The trade-off is how scary that might be, against surrendering into flow. That doesn’t interest you? Cool. It doesn’t matter and what does will manifest for you. Nothing wrong with that. We are all here to learn what we are here to learn and we get there when we get there. Faster if we learn to let go.
There is a shortcut to the game, that rides on the wings of the discernment between want and need and… “hey, Source, bring on the fun!”
- Know what matters… and accept the following: I will need to set intentions. I will need to leave the absolutes of any outcome up to the Infinite. The result will be beyond what I could imagine and I will wait for that, whilst taking each action step I am intuitively guided to take, no matter what anyone else thinks or says or does, nor how foolish it makes me feel or how frightened.
- Turn it all over to Source, whilst fully intending from within your preferential parameters.
- Wait with faith and patience for the action steps that will help the manifestation to occur. Take only those steps. {this is sometimes known as the hard part…}
Accept, with certainty, that your true needs, once you are aware of them, will always be met, and you will rarely know how that is going to happen.
To use myself as an example once again: I could say I would love to have a home base… as George Carlin once put it, a “place for my stuff.” And yet, had I had that, I would not have had the adventures I have experienced over the past three or four years. That is my current perspective. It will undoubtedly shift. Perspectives tend to do that as we grow. My essence is well aware that it signed me up for Mr. Toad’s Wild Ride, and is… loving it!
I am happy not knowing what I don’t know. I am content to know what I do know, in a constant state of refinement, which is what matters.
Oh, that “want” thing? I want to keep traveling and experiencing nature in ways I could not have imagined. I want to enjoy the sunshine on this non-rainy day. I want to spend time with those of accelerating consciousness, and act as HER cheerleader on their behalf. No pom-poms. They are scary in many dimensions. Oh, wait, those things are happening/ have already happened today.
Because I now know what I need, and acknowledge that it matters.
Is this self-love? SHE says “yes,” laughing quite loudly. Funny how simple the distillation of our dreams becomes.
~ Namaste ~
Hey, I’m happy to lend HER perspective to those who ask… and agree to HER terms for changing the game. Otherwise, I am grateful to know what I know, to be shown what I don’t, and to enjoy what is called ‘getting on with it.’
Talk soon. I need to get on…
Infinite love and respect to you. Thank you for reading.
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