Native neighbors
“My husband’s parents had a fire. I had to temporarily take them with me. And from that day my personal hell began. For the second year now they have been living at home. Mother-in-law — 45. Father-in-law — 50. Initially, the conversation with them was that they would move out in six months. And there is already a dialogue going on that they will stay with us forever. Three healthy foreheads on my neck, led by my husband, plus my daughter. They don’t work, although there are no contraindications. My husband also doesn’t work, as he recently received a disability rating. And now he receives benefits. I work, cook, etc. There is no help, either financial or just around the house. I have no strength anymore. What should I do?”
Parents are sacred. Leave them in the lurch? Who do you really have to be to do this? You will have to step up and understand them. Shouldn’t they go outside when such grief happened? Native children and relatives should act as support and reliable support. It is difficult to imagine what a person experiences who has lost everything that was acquired through backbreaking labor throughout his life.
It is strange that at such an age the husband’s parents rejected the responsibility to work and bring income to the large family. Especially if age and health allow it. 2 years is quite a long period of time during which one could leave behind the grief experienced and start all over again, even while living with his own son for permanent residence.
You are not obligated to feed, wash, put things in order, wash everyone’s plate and provide for everyone around you. It is clear that for the first month or two you show tolerance and get into the situation. But it is almost impossible to feed the whole family alone. 4 adults and 1 child. This is backbreaking work, especially for a woman.
This question is worth raising, no matter how much resonance it receives. First, talk to your husband. If this does not bring the desired results, move on to plan B — parents. They are no longer 25. They should understand perfectly well that it is difficult for you. And it would be nice for “sedentary” household members to divide household responsibilities among themselves. No other way.
No parent wants to burden their own children with their problems. In most cases, they are depressed and very upset that they become a burden to their offspring. But how can one not share the grief and help loved ones when it is so necessary?