My wife turned ugly after pregnancy, I don’t want to have sex with her anymore
I have done psychological counseling-related work before, and one of the clients consulted me about this problem.
When he and his wife first met, his wife was very beautiful, and he was very fond of and infatuated with her. After that, they got married, got pregnant, and had children, all went well.
But unfortunately, after the initial good past, a mess is left behind. He found that his wife had become bloated, her skin had slackened and her face had turned ugly after the baby was born.
At the same time, his career was not going well and his mind was suffering. Eventually, he lost interest in his wife and never had sex with her again.
Sounds like a bad husband.
Well, he also knew his thoughts were immoral. During our conversation, he did not defend himself. But he really couldn’t restrain his inner thoughts and finally chose to ask me for help.
What should I say? In my life experience, this is not an isolated case, but a relatively common phenomenon.
I believe that many of my readers have faced or will face this problem, so here I want to openly discuss this problem with you.
I believe that many of my readers have faced or will face this problem, so here I want to openly discuss this problem with you.
Getting ugly after pregnancy is an inevitable physiological problem
Biologically speaking, this is the fetus protecting itself.
During pregnancy, sexual intercourse of pregnant women will lead to contractions to a certain extent, especially particularly exciting sexual behaviors, which will lead to relatively strong contractions. This may cause premature birth, miscarriage, placental abruption, etc. In severe cases, the pregnancy may be terminated or failed, and in severe cases, it will endanger the life of the pregnant woman.
After a woman is pregnant, due to the relationship between hormone levels, many women will have loose skin, long spots, and a bloated body, which will greatly reduce their attractiveness to men. This phenomenon allows pregnant women to avoid having sex during pregnancy, thereby protecting the fetus.
Simply put, the fetus is competing with its father for motherhood.
So here I have a suggestion: wait until your kid grows up and beat him up as punishment for stealing your wife!
(of course, this is just a joke)
Husbands should take more responsibility
Although it is a biological phenomenon that women become ugly after pregnancy, we can still solve this problem.
First, the husband should take on more family affairs and reduce the pressure on the wife. Do housework, take care of the children, and let the wife have enough time to rest. If you have enough funds, you can also hire a temporary babysitter.
Second, do professional postpartum rehabilitation to get back to your previous figure. Under the guidance of scientific health concepts, systematic rehabilitation guidance and training, including pelvic floor muscle function rehabilitation, rectus abdominis repair, etc., are carried out to ensure postpartum women’s bone recovery and their own health.
Finally, the husband should give his wife enough care to keep her in a good mood.
Girls should learn to distinguish between good men and bad men
Let me tell a story.
There was a couple who saw a pregnant woman when they were out shopping together. She was puffy and fat.
The boy looked at the pregnant woman and said to the girl, “When you are pregnant and have children in the future, you should be able to maintain a good figure, not like her, right?”
Afterward, the boy said: “If you need me to accompany you in the delivery room when you need to give birth, I will go in. But if I witness the process of giving birth to a child and affect our future married life, then I definitely don’t want it.”
The girl in the story is a friend of mine, and after hearing the story, I suggested that she break up. After all, people who can say such things lack a sense of responsibility.
All female readers, when looking for a partner, you must find the kind of responsible male!
Finally, thanks to all the mothers in the world.
