My Terms For Chastity Enforcement

The Conditions I Set When I Finally Agreed To Enforce My Husband’s Chastity

I’ve written a lot about my feelings and how they have changed over the course of the last couple of years. I’ve also writtent a lot about both specifics and generalities. I’ve only discussed the very general conditions and terms I set when I finally agreed to enforce Hubby’s chastity. I’ve received a few private questions on exactly what my terms were when I started out. I’ll lay them out as succinctly as possible along with my rationale at the time.

1. I pick the chastity device period, hubby got no say in the matter or no deal.
2. I set any conditions for release/sex unconditionally. There will be no schedule, no bargains, no deals. It’s entirely up to me when and if I stop enforcing hubby’s chastity or allow any sex. No “safe word”, no secret code, no time limits.
3. There will be absolutely no discussions about hubby’s chastity unless I bring it up. If hubby brings it up in any way he will accept a punishment of my choosing. No exceptions.
4. There will be no talk about sex or any kind of kinky/femdom/mistress talk on hubby’s part. Zero. If hubby starts any conversation about any of the above it’s also a punishment of my choice.
5. The only thing I am agreeing to do is enforce chastity and that’s it.
6. Chastity means no sex, no erections end of story. It does not mean any aspect of chastity enforcement intrudes into my daily life.

Those were my initial terms and I’ve added a few more and changed a few of them in minor ways. For the most part that’s the framework I agreed to and it’s worked well over the last couple of years. I thought these things through based on my goals at the time. My goal was to get the entire chastity/dominatrix “thing” out of my life for good. I though maybe it would take a month or two or three and then I’d be done with it. Boy was I wrong about so many things before I enforced my husband’s chastity.

Even though the terms with a few modifications have continued to work well the big thing I wanted to avoid while “doing away with chastity and kink” from my relationship was not to have a 24x7 sex discussion for as long as that might take. I was sick to death of it in the first place given the few times Hubby broached the topic over a few years prior. That last thing I wanted at was that to be the only conversation ever along with an immense amount of effort keeping track of complicated “rules” and becoming a slave to it myself. My goal was to lock up hubby’s penis in a device that actually provided no escape and be done with it completely, out of sight, out of mind, never to be discussed, until he was at a point he never wanted anything to do with femdom/kink/chastity again.

Even though my thoughts have change significantly and I am now in what many would consider a very kinky relationship with my husband the original terms that did not allow chastity enformcement to become one giant 24x7 sex game from the start turned out to be very important in starting down the road of male chastity enforcement. I would recommend similar terms for anyone exploring lifestyle chastity enforcement unless they actually want it to become the complete focus of all things, especially early on.