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My Response To Are Relationships Worth It?

Before I even opened the link to read the piece, my mind had already said, “No.” The subtitle, Sorry: In most cases, the answer is ‘no’, clinched the deal for me. Seldom do Tracey Folly and I disagree.

More bad news: Even if you meet someone who is “the one” and you get married and have a couple of kids, you can’t say that those relationships were always worth it. Divorce is rampant.

Someone who Is The One while you’re in your 20s more than likely will not still hold that title in your 30s and 40s. People change.

Maybe you know someone who is still married to their high school sweetheart five decades later. Those people are regrettably few and far between. They are the exceptions to every rule.

There is an excellent chance that you will not follow in their footsteps.

A couple came to mind. Neither of them thinks they can do any better than what they’ve got. So they settled. I’d rather live alone than settle any day of the week!

… we’re tired of trying.

^This. I have a guy that used to get on me about my weight. Like he was a living Ken doll. Finally, one day I had enough and told him I’d lose weight when he grew hair.

He never brought it up again.

Oh, how the imperfect demand perfection. I have no desire to letting myself go and giving up. I equally have no desire to bend and shape myself into something that I’m not nor want to be. Take me as I am and I’ll do the same.

The thing is, every relationship you have requires time and energy. You can’t blame the other person for wanting to spend more than their fair share of time and energy with you. Someone always feels smothered while the other feels rejected.

My life has taken off since the end of my last relationship. It was many years long, not married, not even living together. For me, it was perfect. For him, it was until it wasn’t.

He moved many time zones away, as people often do. He wasn’t moving back to the area, and I wasn’t moving there. Oh, well. But.

I have since taken the one book on my other publisher's website down, broken it up into parts, and placed the flash fiction pieces on Amazon to sell individually. I wrote a new ebook for the original publisher. That book remains. I’ve written new pieces for Amazon. I’ve started on Medium and Vocal. I’ve laid the groundwork for YouTube and Spotify. I also have 5K pieces of inventory in my shop on Redbubble.

I couldn’t have done any of that if I had spent every night doing the, “What do you want for dinner?” routine. And I have more plans mapped out that include a home studio for voice work and extensive US traveling as a digital nomad.

You need a life partner. You want love and support in your life. In that case, maybe relationships are worth it. They aren’t easy, but they are worth it.

Meh. Need might be a bit strong. I need food to eat and stay alive. A Ledo’s pizza would be nice to have. I need to have access to medical care, it just doesn’t have to be NIH.

If you’d like to read Tracey’s Are Relationships Worth It? you can do so here.