My Girlfriend Hangs Out With Other Guys
A few years back, I found myself in this situation and a lot of people telling me not to be macho and paranoid, and this is the fucking 21st century.
But my now ex-girlfriend was hanging out one on 1 with some guys for afternoon coffee hangouts and whatnot.
Guys, she claimed to be, “Oh… we are just friends”. The same guys that, during the afternoon coffee meetings, she explicitly spoke about our relationship with them.
The same guys that used what she said and thought she lacked on our relationship turned it around and enticed her to leave me for them.
The same guys that she very probably cheated me with several times and later exchanged me for one of them like I didn’t matter any more.
The fact is that if you are in an exclusive relationship, then there must be rules.
One thing is your girl talking to guys, and that’s perfectly alright! Another is she hanging around with guys for afternoon coffees, possibly discussing your relationship with them.
And guys are guys, and if they are hetero and your girl is attractive, then they have thought several times about having sex with her. Yes, we are basic!
Then it’s a question of your relationship situation; if it’s not all sunshine and daisies and, instead, going to a darker path because all relationships once in a while go a bit down, then possibly one of her so-called buddies will sooner or later take advantage of the situation.
All this freedom in relationships nowadays doesn’t fucking work! It’s fucked up! If people want to be open to doing whatever they want, they should stay single. Why be in a relationship at all if you are planning living the same way as if you were yet single?
People do this because they are selfish; they want it all without compromising. But it never works because there’s always one side normally getting butt hurt, and in this case, that’s you. Afterwards, if you say anything, they tell you, “You are being macho or something else!”
In case it’s a guy, then he’s a prick or asshole or player for spending so much time around other women.
But the fact is your partner should be your main priority and not your friends. Your partner is the one that you will later on possibly build a family and future together and not your or their friends.
If your girl intends to keep hanging out with her “just friends” all the time, then she should be single instead; then she can live a rowdy cowboy life without pissing anyone off.
The fact is, I have never known a man that truly feels comfortable about his girl hanging out with a bunch of horny guys. Except if the guy doesn’t give a fuck about his girl and is also doing the same.
Besides, if you did the same thing to any woman, I mean, you were constantly hanging around beautiful women for coffee, nightclubs, etc., then she very probably wouldn’t also like the idea.
Then there’s the magic formula:
Some booze to cherish up the devilish side within her. Perhaps even enticed by her, “just friends” because you know he’s innocently asexual and never had any naughty carnal thoughts about her
A relationship not in its most lucrative moments
A horny “just friend guy” by her side
And then one day, you hear your girl saying, “- He happened to fall on top of me with his penis out, and I don’t know what happened to my pants.
I guess, well, I think so. I left them in the bathroom when I went there. And then I was drunk, and things just happened, you know? Ups… it was an accident! I wasn’t myself, I don’t know what happened! I am sorry, honey.”
A little crocodile tear slowly streams down her eyes, and you can nearly hear the beautiful sound, “cha-ching” from her, “Oh… we are just friends” from a thousand miles away, while you keep the agony as if your heart was getting pierced by an ice pick.
Yes, it just happened. It’s all fun and good until the day that shit hits the fan.
In a relationship, there has to be some rules. I am not saying she will cheat on you. However, the rules exist not to piss off your partner and not make them stress over all the crap.