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as we got older, my wife began developing chronic pain issues. This had nothing to do with our intimacy, but it did inform it. The frequency of our trysts continued to lower until, toward the end, it was down to once every few weeks.</p><p id="4c10">This was frustrating for me because I would have kept going at the several times a week level for some time <i>(my T-level when I started HRT was over 700).</i></p><p id="8ad3">So in the old days <i>(pre-egg crack)</i>, I practiced regular self-care in the area of sexual satisfaction, enjoying solo sex several times a week. This allowed me to not pester my wife as much <i>(that’s what it felt like anyway)</i> and she didn’t have that pressure to perform. I felt like this was fair for her and since I always styled myself the selfless caregiver, I was okay with it.</p><h2 id="e9b5">Fast Forward To Transition</h2><p id="02e7">So when I started HRT, I was given a big list of ‘possible side-effects and disclaimers’ that I was expected to sign prior. It mentioned the drop in libido and volume. And I was so excited about getting breasts and being feminine, having a body more like me, that it was worth it. So I signed and got my meds and started my therapy.</p><h2 id="ae21">The Early Months</h2><p id="88eb">I noticed changes in my performance after about two weeks of HRT; volume began going down, erections were harder to maintain — if I was a CIS guy they would have shipped me off to an ED <i>(erectile dysfunction)</i> clinic. But I persevered, because I know my body and I are in a love/hate relationship right now.</p><h2 id="7908">The Plot Thickens</h2><p id="bb1d">While I remain attracted to female energy and form, the passion had cooled, I no longer felt the pull for visual stimulation. Yep, that included porn; nothing, zip, nada. I still noticed girls and their forms, but it had shifted to observation and occasional, “I want to be you,” envy. Times, they are-a changing…</p><h2 id="0d65">Even The Orgasms Felt Off</h2><p id="1914">But the orgasms were changing too. They were becoming less fulfilling; literally and figuratively. Erections came and went with annoying frequency, and when an orgasm did come, it was uncertain, furtive, and without much feeling. Volume was down to a few drops, clear. And even those tiny orgasms ‘reset’ the clock <i>(the biology of the ‘rebound’ time, lol)</i>. I had gone from being able to have sex when I wanted <i>(and had the privacy of course)</i>, sometimes several times a day, to barely being able to hold an erection, dribble a bit, and then not get any response for days.</p><h2 id="6268">Disappointed Much</h2><p id="76dc">Hell yes! Look here people, do I want good sex? Yes, yes I do! But HRT was making that impossible. So, yay to being able to feel mor

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e like myself, but I’m pretty sure my lady friends have orgasms too. Am I consigned to living my life as a celibate woman? The fun factor just went down a scosh or two. Yeesh.</p><p id="3894" type="7">Am I consigned to living my life as a celibate woman?</p><h1 id="be73">Eureka!!!</h1><p id="245d">Then something strange and wonderful happened. Again, I was trying to enjoy some solo-sex, and not having much luck maintaining the erection. It was starting out like other recent evenings and I feared it would end in disappointment. But before I could complete that thought I realized that something was happening. Something was feeling really good. I was stimulating my frenulum (that’s the area between the head and the shaft on the outward-facing side) and it felt amazing, and then it happened! It was like waves of heat radiated from my penis, spread across my abdomen and down my legs, stopping before the knees. What had happened? If that was an orgasm, it was like nothing I’d ever experienced before.</p><p id="309f">I shared with one of my girlfriends <i>(read — a friend that is a girl)</i> and she confirmed it — Yep, I had just had a ‘girl orgasm.’</p><p id="0a19">WHAT!?!?!? An E-gasm? Yes! Yes! Yes! I was euphoric over it <i>(and still am, to be honest)</i>. This is a game-changer!!! I mean, yes I was still having problems with the ‘old way’, but now I had something else to start experiencing. And the last time I was in shock, but next time I am going to take my time and make sure and relax and enjoy it!</p><p id="912f" type="7">An E-gasm? Yes! Yes! Yes!</p><h1 id="e4b5">What To Do Now?</h1><figure id="4ac3"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*7z71FdR5wogYd1zFQaYX6w.jpeg"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@enginakyurt?utm_source=unsplash&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=creditCopyText">engin akyurt</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com/s/photos/orgasm?utm_source=unsplash&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=creditCopyText">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="0495">Nothing but relax and give my body a bit of a break. I’m still changing and my body is trying to keep up with all the new hormones and how they affect my body. It’s a little bit different for each of us. Trans-people have similar journeys as they transition, moving toward our truths and who we are. But we also have unique bits. And I am so excited about this development! Because I want this frustrating journey in my life.</p><p id="12e8">Every day I feel like I’m a bit more me. And that feeling is worth all the trials and troubles. If you are transitioning medically, your body is changing — embrace that and celebrate all the victories!!!</p><p id="33c8">Now, where did I put those vibrators…</p></article></body>

My First E-gasm, I Think…

Jenuinely Jenny says: This trans girl might have just struck gold

Warning: NSFW content of a sexually-explicit nature, if you are triggered by such things I ask your understanding, and feel free to exit now. We will be discussing orgasms here so you have been warned! Thanks.

Okay, the rest of you pervs can read on…lol.

The Journey So Far

So in all seriousness, for those of you following my trans-formation story, I’m on the fourth month of HRT (hormone replacement therapy). So my Testosterone has been suppressed and my Estrogen level increased.

This can cause many positive outcomes for gender dysphoria or others interested in expanding their knowledge of all things sex.

HRT Effects:

Emotional balance — Check!
Slower hair growth — Check!
Breast growth — Soreness for now, but hopeful, Check!
Reduced libido — Huh? Yea, Check?
Reduced sperm production (and drop in ejaculate volume) — Double Huh? Waiter, check please?
Hold up, I’m going to stop you right there. What do you mean by lowered libido and reduced ejaculate volume?

My Golden Olden Years

I have always been a very sensual person. But, like many things in my life, I have kept this hidden. I don’t remember any parent lessons on masturbation, but since we were in a catholic home, maybe that was to be expected? All I know is once I ‘discovered IT’ I thought I had struck gold! I was going to change the world with my discovery — solo sex! IT would be the new hotness and I would be rich and famous.

“I was going to change the world with my discovery — solo sex!!!”

Well, I found out when I tried sharing my secret was that others already knew about this and that not only was I not going to be rich and famous, but I might also go blind or grow hair on my palms! (Neither of those ‘fake news’ stories ever happened, BTW)

Flash Forward — The Married Life

When my wife hinted that she was interested in bedroom intimacy, I was always there to lend a hand (and other parts, lol). But as we got older, my wife began developing chronic pain issues. This had nothing to do with our intimacy, but it did inform it. The frequency of our trysts continued to lower until, toward the end, it was down to once every few weeks.

This was frustrating for me because I would have kept going at the several times a week level for some time (my T-level when I started HRT was over 700).

So in the old days (pre-egg crack), I practiced regular self-care in the area of sexual satisfaction, enjoying solo sex several times a week. This allowed me to not pester my wife as much (that’s what it felt like anyway) and she didn’t have that pressure to perform. I felt like this was fair for her and since I always styled myself the selfless caregiver, I was okay with it.

Fast Forward To Transition

So when I started HRT, I was given a big list of ‘possible side-effects and disclaimers’ that I was expected to sign prior. It mentioned the drop in libido and volume. And I was so excited about getting breasts and being feminine, having a body more like me, that it was worth it. So I signed and got my meds and started my therapy.

The Early Months

I noticed changes in my performance after about two weeks of HRT; volume began going down, erections were harder to maintain — if I was a CIS guy they would have shipped me off to an ED (erectile dysfunction) clinic. But I persevered, because I know my body and I are in a love/hate relationship right now.

The Plot Thickens

While I remain attracted to female energy and form, the passion had cooled, I no longer felt the pull for visual stimulation. Yep, that included porn; nothing, zip, nada. I still noticed girls and their forms, but it had shifted to observation and occasional, “I want to be you,” envy. Times, they are-a changing…

Even The Orgasms Felt Off

But the orgasms were changing too. They were becoming less fulfilling; literally and figuratively. Erections came and went with annoying frequency, and when an orgasm did come, it was uncertain, furtive, and without much feeling. Volume was down to a few drops, clear. And even those tiny orgasms ‘reset’ the clock (the biology of the ‘rebound’ time, lol). I had gone from being able to have sex when I wanted (and had the privacy of course), sometimes several times a day, to barely being able to hold an erection, dribble a bit, and then not get any response for days.

Disappointed Much

Hell yes! Look here people, do I want good sex? Yes, yes I do! But HRT was making that impossible. So, yay to being able to feel more like myself, but I’m pretty sure my lady friends have orgasms too. Am I consigned to living my life as a celibate woman? The fun factor just went down a scosh or two. Yeesh.

Am I consigned to living my life as a celibate woman?

Eureka!!!

Then something strange and wonderful happened. Again, I was trying to enjoy some solo-sex, and not having much luck maintaining the erection. It was starting out like other recent evenings and I feared it would end in disappointment. But before I could complete that thought I realized that something was happening. Something was feeling really good. I was stimulating my frenulum (that’s the area between the head and the shaft on the outward-facing side) and it felt amazing, and then it happened! It was like waves of heat radiated from my penis, spread across my abdomen and down my legs, stopping before the knees. What had happened? If that was an orgasm, it was like nothing I’d ever experienced before.

I shared with one of my girlfriends (read — a friend that is a girl) and she confirmed it — Yep, I had just had a ‘girl orgasm.’

WHAT!?!?!? An E-gasm? Yes! Yes! Yes! I was euphoric over it (and still am, to be honest). This is a game-changer!!! I mean, yes I was still having problems with the ‘old way’, but now I had something else to start experiencing. And the last time I was in shock, but next time I am going to take my time and make sure and relax and enjoy it!

An E-gasm? Yes! Yes! Yes!

What To Do Now?

Nothing but relax and give my body a bit of a break. I’m still changing and my body is trying to keep up with all the new hormones and how they affect my body. It’s a little bit different for each of us. Trans-people have similar journeys as they transition, moving toward our truths and who we are. But we also have unique bits. And I am so excited about this development! Because I want this frustrating journey in my life.

Every day I feel like I’m a bit more me. And that feeling is worth all the trials and troubles. If you are transitioning medically, your body is changing — embrace that and celebrate all the victories!!!

Now, where did I put those vibrators…