My Family Has Anger Issues

Here’s how to do deal with it.

I’m so angry right now. I probably shouldn’t be writing this, but whatever. I can’t contain it anymore.

It’s so weird.

This whole day I’ve been chill. No yelling or screaming, just sitting in my basement watching TV, the usual. And I guess, editing a blog post too.

In my household, there are a few things you can get yelled at for. Well, a lot of things:

• You said you wanted food at the wrong time
• You wanted to spray in the bathroom at the wrong time
• You wanted to watch a movie at the wrong time
• You wanted to eat in the kitchen at the wrong time
• You tried to be nice at the wrong time

Honestly, when is the right time to do anything? I don’t know if it’s just me or the people I’m living with, but there’s an anger bug in the air that I can’t handle anymore.

Huh, now that I’ve gotten that little rant out of the way, let’s figure out the right time to do things and when to disengage from an argument.

Hopefully this helps.

Hang up the phone if it’s a phone argument.

Hate to say it, but we all have that little toddler inside of us that’s waiting to jump out and be petty during an argument. My family is the dynasty of that.

All I wanted was a Chipotle burrito. It’s about 5 pm and I haven’t eaten anything since 10 am. A little food helps so I called my mom and asked her to get me a burrito. A screaming match ensued over the phone all because she didn’t feel like going in or waiting in a line.

She’s annoying so I just stopped and told my sister to get it. Okay.

I disengaged from that argument, but she kept it going. The toddler inside jumped out! What could I do? Just go back in the basement and pretend nothing happened.

Honestly, if there’s an argument over the phone and that person is making you angry, just hang up. It doesn’t matter if they’re mad at you later. Right now you really just need space.

Close their door.

If the person you’re arguing with is still in their feelings and won’t stop instigating, close their door.

This could mean a lot of different things, you can close their door literally or just say something to shut them up. For me, I closed my mom’s door literally, but I also know a few things I can say that’ll shut her up. It depends on how I feel. Love my mom to death though.

Don’t let these people come at you crazy even when you’ve done your part and disengaged. Find a way to shut them up (that isn’t physically harmful) and go with that.

Don’t apologize if there’s nothing to apologize for.

I don’t think I’ll ever understand this.

How many times have you been in a fight with someone and they clearly started it, yet they expect an apology out of you first? I’m about to laugh,

I used to apologize all the time just to end the fight and get along. But clearly, that doesn’t work for me and I’ve reached a breaking point with that. Half the time people won’t even apologize back.

So if you don’t start anything, feel free to leave the situation and never apologize again. Call me stupid, but if a punch is a punch, would it apologize for being a punch?

Hell no. Be unapologetic about it and stand your ground, people only look for apologies these days to soothe their ego anyway.

Final Thoughts

Whooo….

That tuckered me out. I might go to sleep after this.

Anyways, the main thing I want you to take away from this post is that we can only control ourselves in an argument, and not the other person. The only thing you can do is disengage and close the other person’s door and don’t apologize.

It sounds harsh and not lenient to the other person, but if you’re like me and you live in a household where you can get yelled at for being nice at the wrong time, this is a life-saver.

Stay above water and keep your head up from the hate. Thanks for listening to my rant. Now I’m calm.