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p>How I Did It:I’m not an early bird. I love to sleep as much as I want in the mornings because I do most of my work at night but to achieve my plan, I had to become an early bird.I started waking up by 4:30 every morning, so I’d get to work before 7:00. When I get to work, I’m always so calm because I’m always on time.It is always better to be early than on time but its worse to be late.I also made it a rule to always handle tasks thoroughly and get them completed before anyone else. I knew if I was diligent at my job, those bullies would not be able to get anything on me.Even though I later resigned to go after my dreams, I left an excellent impression on my colleagues.Trust me, If you’re diligent at your job, you’d have fewer reasons to be anxious and you’d be super confident.<h2 id="6e5f">Talk Less and Listen more</h2>If you ask me, confident people don’t talk much, rather they listen more. Most of the confident people I know don’t always feel the need to speak at every given opportunity.They think before they talk. They know their words are of great value so they talk when they have something worth saying.If you are a tattle tale, you’re probably not giving out confident vibes. It is wise to think before you talk so you’d have some sort of cool impression on people. Even the bible says;“A man of knowledge restrains his words, and a man of understanding keeps a cool head”.-Proverbs 17:27<h2 id="427e">Stop Explaining Yourself Unnecessarily</h2>I used to be guilty of this. I always felt the need to explain myself to people, especially people who did not deserve it. I explained stuff like; why I liked the kind of music I like and why I don’t go to church as often as most people do.Your explanation may not be necessary as it sometimes hardly changes people’s opinions. Besides, it makes you look off guard and in need of approval. So stop explaining yourself to people who don’t deserve it. If you believe in something stand by it — no apologies.<h2 id="cead">See Yourself as Confident</h2>If you want people to see you as a confident person, you must first see yourself that way. Your <a href="https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2015-11/uoo-oif111115.php">Visualization and Imagination of yourself</a> is vital and determines how others see you. You can’t achieve anything on the physical without first achieving it from the mind.From today begin to see yourself as fearless and confident and you’d see, you’d begin to look and act that way.<h2 id="67d6">Dress The Part</h2>My aunt always says “Looking good is goo

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d business”. If you want to appear more confident, you must look the part. You can’t be looking all shabby and expect to appear confident. Take care of yourself. When I say take care of yourself, I mean;<ul><li>get enough sleep, eat the right food, drink the right amount of water your body needs. Doing these will help keep you healthy, as well as give you healthy-looking skin.</li><li>Make sure you’re always smelling nice — there are good fragrances you could get for yourself.</li><li>Make sure you’ve got fresh breath at all times — this way you would feel confident about your breath when talking to people.</li><li>Wear something comfortable. It doesn’t need to be expensive, it just has to be clothes that compliment your body structure.</li></ul>Never leave the house without taking care of your looks. Because your appearance can either build or destroy your confidence.<h2 id="1d16">Make Positive Affirmations To Yourself</h2><figure id="eff3"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*uVRu4yE5N4SOaieE"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@jannerboy62?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Nick Fewings</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>Here’s what I do when I look at the mirror, I smile and then I say ‘Hello beautiful, intelligent, and confident woman’.I know it sounds crazy but sometimes in life, a little level of Crazy does the trick. Try making positive affirmations to yourself. Even when you don’t believe any of it, do it anyway.Go ahead and try it.<ul><li>I am beautiful</li><li>I’m unique</li><li>I’m talented</li><li>I am confident</li></ul>Indeed, you aren’t going to magically become confident. Give it time. Soon these words would get registered to your subconscious and you’d begin to appear more confident.<h2 id="c9b9">Take Your Time and Breaths</h2>There’s so much happening in the world that we sometimes forget to just Breath. A large number of people I know fail to take deep breaths. When I say deep breaths I don’t mean those hard, quick, deep breaths, I mean the gentle, slow, silent, and long breaths.“Inhale and Exhale”Taking <a href="https://sci-hub.st/https://link.springer.com/content/pdf/10.1007/s10484-015-9279-8.pdf">deep breaths</a> is essential if you must stay calm so try to always take deep breaths and stay relaxed.Like I said earlier, confidence isn’t something that grows overnight. It’s okay to fake it until you make it. These are some of my easy hacks to achieve that. Go ahead and start practicing these hacks today.Thanks for reading. You are the reason I write.</article></body>

My Fake It Until You Make It Confidence Hack

Your appearance can either build or destroy your confidence.

photo by Gabrielle Henderson on Unsplash

There are probably thousands of articles on how to achieve confidence. The truth is, being confident isn’t something that happens overnight just by reading some ‘Article’.

Sometimes it’s hard to get to that point where you are confident in yourself, but people don’t need to know that. You can work on your appearance to look more confident and gain more respect from the people around you. Whether is at your workplace or amongst your peers.

This is why I have decided to share some of my Fake it Until You Make it, Confidence approach.

Never Be In a Hurry

I know you are probably wondering ‘what does being in a hurry has to do with confidence’? I’d tell you.

I believe that to appear more confident, you have to be calm or at least look calm at all times. How do you look calm at all times? By never being in a hurry.

I noticed that whenever I’m in a hurry, I tend to be more anxious than when I take my time. Also being in a hurry makes me appear less confident than when I’m calm.

When you are calm and calculated you give an impression to the people around you. An impression that suggests that you got everything under control. Even though most of the time you don’t, never let it show.

Stay calm and start preparing early so you are never in a hurry to meet up.

Be Excellent At Your Job

Another way you can be or at least appear confident is to do your job excellently well.

“Work is doing it. Discipline is doing it every day. Diligence is doing it well every day”.

-Dave Ramsey

There’s this confidence that comes from knowing you have done all that you are supposed to do. I know this because I have experienced it.

Personal Story

At my former office, I worked with some high profiled ladies who had a reputation of being bullies to their subordinates. Everyone at the office feared them because of this. But I knew there was no way I’d let anyone intimidate me. So I came up with an excellent strategy? — literately.

I decided to step up my game at the office. I made sure I was always one step ahead of every other staff in the organization.

How I Did It:

I’m not an early bird. I love to sleep as much as I want in the mornings because I do most of my work at night but to achieve my plan, I had to become an early bird.

I started waking up by 4:30 every morning, so I’d get to work before 7:00. When I get to work, I’m always so calm because I’m always on time.

It is always better to be early than on time but its worse to be late.

I also made it a rule to always handle tasks thoroughly and get them completed before anyone else. I knew if I was diligent at my job, those bullies would not be able to get anything on me.

Even though I later resigned to go after my dreams, I left an excellent impression on my colleagues.

Trust me, If you’re diligent at your job, you’d have fewer reasons to be anxious and you’d be super confident.

Talk Less and Listen more

If you ask me, confident people don’t talk much, rather they listen more. Most of the confident people I know don’t always feel the need to speak at every given opportunity.

They think before they talk. They know their words are of great value so they talk when they have something worth saying.

If you are a tattle tale, you’re probably not giving out confident vibes. It is wise to think before you talk so you’d have some sort of cool impression on people. Even the bible says;

“A man of knowledge restrains his words, and a man of understanding keeps a cool head”.

-Proverbs 17:27

Stop Explaining Yourself Unnecessarily

I used to be guilty of this. I always felt the need to explain myself to people, especially people who did not deserve it. I explained stuff like; why I liked the kind of music I like and why I don’t go to church as often as most people do.

Your explanation may not be necessary as it sometimes hardly changes people’s opinions. Besides, it makes you look off guard and in need of approval. So stop explaining yourself to people who don’t deserve it. If you believe in something stand by it — no apologies.

See Yourself as Confident

If you want people to see you as a confident person, you must first see yourself that way. Your Visualization and Imagination of yourself is vital and determines how others see you. You can’t achieve anything on the physical without first achieving it from the mind.

From today begin to see yourself as fearless and confident and you’d see, you’d begin to look and act that way.

Dress The Part

My aunt always says “Looking good is good business”. If you want to appear more confident, you must look the part. You can’t be looking all shabby and expect to appear confident. Take care of yourself. When I say take care of yourself, I mean;

get enough sleep, eat the right food, drink the right amount of water your body needs. Doing these will help keep you healthy, as well as give you healthy-looking skin.
Make sure you’re always smelling nice — there are good fragrances you could get for yourself.
Make sure you’ve got fresh breath at all times — this way you would feel confident about your breath when talking to people.
Wear something comfortable. It doesn’t need to be expensive, it just has to be clothes that compliment your body structure.

Never leave the house without taking care of your looks. Because your appearance can either build or destroy your confidence.

Make Positive Affirmations To Yourself

Here’s what I do when I look at the mirror, I smile and then I say ‘Hello beautiful, intelligent, and confident woman’.

I know it sounds crazy but sometimes in life, a little level of Crazy does the trick. Try making positive affirmations to yourself. Even when you don’t believe any of it, do it anyway.

Go ahead and try it.

I am beautiful
I’m unique
I’m talented
I am confident

Indeed, you aren’t going to magically become confident. Give it time. Soon these words would get registered to your subconscious and you’d begin to appear more confident.

Take Your Time and Breaths

There’s so much happening in the world that we sometimes forget to just Breath. A large number of people I know fail to take deep breaths. When I say deep breaths I don’t mean those hard, quick, deep breaths, I mean the gentle, slow, silent, and long breaths.

“Inhale and Exhale”

Taking deep breaths is essential if you must stay calm so try to always take deep breaths and stay relaxed.

Like I said earlier, confidence isn’t something that grows overnight. It’s okay to fake it until you make it. These are some of my easy hacks to achieve that. Go ahead and start practicing these hacks today.

Thanks for reading. You are the reason I write.