My Ex Messaged Me Today

They All Come Back

April 19th — my boyfriend of 6 years (lets call him “J”) — dumped me. He actually didn’t even do it in person since he is a coward. He texted me.

Actually, I had tried to break up a week prior, but J begged me not to. So I can’t say I was incredibly broken up but it still hurt.

I’m only human.

Ex Reached Out

Anyways — his message was typical. J sent me a picture of a shirt I probably left at his house a year prior to the breakup. (That’s how long it had been since I was at his place)

My ex wanted to know if I wanted this shirt back. I actually didn’t see his message until 3 days later. But I thought hey, I’ll just tell him “No”.

Which is what I did. And then J said he would donate it to goodwill. And wanted to know if he could get the earrings he gave me back.

Now I had actually already sold them since I needed some money. So I responded with the truth.

His response? “ Savage, you didn’t care at all huh?”

Now let me tell you a little about the day we broke up.

It was brutal. I called him after I got the message. J was very angry.

Screaming at me. Calling me all sorts of names. Only coldness in his voice. Told me he never wanted to speak to me again.

I kept my end of the deal. I wanted the same from J.

Back to Present Day

J then messaged that he would give me the belt I gave him back. After he dropped it off at my parent's mailbox (I don’t live there but it's close to his place) — he started messaging me saying goodnight and asking about my dad's truck. (It had been in an accident)

My response? Nothing. I didn’t respond. Left on read.

Which is what we all should do.

I didn’t tell J thanks or that I wanted the belt. I said nothing. I don’t care about the belt or want to respond to anything else.

All J is doing is leaving bread crumbs.

Men do this. Women do this. A dumper is curious. They want to know if you are still thinking of them. If they still have power over you.

Well, don’t give them the satisfaction. You don’t care what they are up to anymore. You broke up.

They don’t get to know how you’re doing anymore. Your ex chose not to be a part of your life. So don’t let them be.

By not responding — You’ve shown them that they don’t affect you. That you’ve moved on.

And guys — I can honestly say I’m doing great.

I don’t really miss him. And I’ve moved on from our relationship. It can’t hold me back anymore.

I am currently very happy dating other people and having new experiences.

I’ll meet someone even better for me.

And you will too.

-Patricia