My Date with a Girl who Didn’t Speak English

Summary

The author recounts a memorable first date with a Thai woman who did not speak English, which motivated him to learn the language and appreciate the experience despite the language barrier.

Abstract

The author shares his unique experience of going on a first date with a Thai woman who spoke no English, which took place in Thailand. Despite the initial challenge, he was captivated by her beauty and confidence, deciding to pursue the date and study Thai to communicate effectively. The evening unfolded with a mix of language struggles and silent understanding, leading to a connection that transcended words. The author reflects on the value of stepping out of one's comfort zone and the renewed motivation to learn Thai, looking forward to future interactions with her.

Opinions

The author finds first dates to be an interesting experience, especially in a different cultural context like Thailand.
He is drawn to the woman's physical appearance, easy smile, and the confidence she exudes upon entering the café.
The author sees the language barrier as a motivating challenge rather than a deterrent, pushing him to improve his Thai.
He appreciates the woman's patience and help with his Thai, finding her support endearing.
The author values the silent moments shared with the woman on the beach, indicating that connection and comfort can exist without verbal communication.
He respects the cultural norms regarding public affection in Thailand and adheres to them when saying goodbye.
The date has left a lasting impression on the author, inspiring him to continue learning Thai and to embrace new experiences.

Having my feet held to the fire while learning a new language

I’ve always found first dates to be an interesting experience. Two people coming together to check each other out for the first time. In my new adopted home of Thailand chivalry is very much part of the dating scene. As any man knows it can be rather stressful at times trying to entertain and keep the mood right while on a first date. Recently this was taken to a new level for me while on a date with a beautiful Thai girl who spoke zero English.

Some of my favourite moments in life are times I’ve known what I might be getting into but I do it anyway. Seeing Kan for the first time as she entered one of my favourite cafes was such an instance. She was tall, with dark skin and smooth features. Silky black hair stretched down over her soft shoulders. Gorgeous, though it was her easy smile that really grabbed me. She smiled at everyone in the room as she entered which radiated a confidence that was incredibly attractive.

I had to talk with her. She settled in at a table not far from mine. I waited for the right moment then went over to say hello. I introduced myself in Thai thinking that she would probably reply in English as it was commonly used where I lived. Staring back at me with her big dark eyes she responded in Thai. We chatted formally in her language for a moment before I asked her, ‘khun phut pasa angrit dai mai? Her shook her head. I paused in my mind for a quick second to do the math on what my next move was. She spoke no english. I could back out now I thought, or I could ask her out anyway. I asked her out.

There are few things as motivating for a guy as a beautiful new girl. I studied furiously that night. I kept it simple, working to refine what I already knew. First dates can be like a pressure cooker environment. Spending the evening trying to be funny and witty in a language I could barely speak was going to be a trip.

We met a few nights later at a street-side restaurant near the beach. She again looked gorgeous and slid her arm inside mine as we were shown to our table. I did my best to hack out a light conversation in Thai and I could tell she appreciated the effort. I knew the language barrier would be awkward at times so I just rolled with it and let the evening unfold on its own. She was originally from Rayong, a seaside city several hours east of Bangkok. She was shy, and I could tell had a good heart. We looked at photos from her recent trip to Hong Kong and talked about other places we had been.

After dinner, we walked along the beach for a while. We sat on the rocks and looked out over the sea. It was one of those moments where you don’t need to speak. We both sat in silence for a while taking in the scenery. She was a very easy person to be with. She helped me at times as I struggled to communicate in Thai, which was quite fun. I found her patience with me rather endearing, knowing I wanted to see her again. We sat for a while longer, talking lightly while soaking up our surroundings.

Later as we walked back from the beach we made plans for the following weekend. Thai girls aren’t big on public affection. So upon saying goodbye, I squeezed her hand lightly and said ‘lao jer gan’, see you later. She gave me the same shy smile I’d seen many times that night, then turned and headed down the street that led to her home.

I had a great time that night. Not only because I went on a date with a great new girl. But because I pushed myself beyond my comfort zone and had an amazing experience as a result. I now have a renewed urge to learn Thai. Studying a new language is no small task, but as I work hard to absorb the new words and phrases, I look forward to the time when I can meet with her again.