Most Women Aren’t Size Queens

One woman dispelling the bigger is better myth

Recently, I had a reader on Medium ask me how important penis size is to women participating in a Hotwife dynamic. They pretty much wanted to know if most women that act as Hotwives only seek out men that are well-endowed to act out these fantasies with. While I’m by no means an expert on what all women (Hotwives or not) like in their male sex partners, I’m in the mindset that, for most women, size is less important instead of if the man knows how to use it.

Let’s Do a Comparison

I’ve slept with under 25 men in my lifetime. While some readers will find that hard to believe since I’m both a Swinger and a Hotwife, I can assure you this is 100% true. I don’t consider myself the be-all-to-end-all-knowledge Queen of all things cock, but I think it’s fair to say that I know a thing or two about what equates to a good fuck. Let’s do a comparison of two men I’ve banged that varied greatly in penis size and my experience with each of them:

Darryl — A fellow Swinger. My husband and I played several times with his wife and him. They are what we’d call good Lifestyle friends. Darryl is in his early 40’s, with salt and pepper hair, a goatee, a fit but average body, stands at about 5'7", and weighs roughly 215 lbs. Darryl’s dick is 6inches, slightly girthy are curved slightly to the left.

Besides my own husband, Darryl is the best lay I’ve had in my entire life! The moves this man has in bed are unbelievably sexy and awe-inspiring! He positions his female play partners in such a way that almost every position makes his average-sized penis feel like it’s extremely deep inside of their vagina. Darryl is not boastful about his sexual prowess. He does not brag about his abilities or share a bazillion pics of his dick before meeting. He just brings it!

Pete — Also a fellow Swinger. Pete was one of the first men I fucked in the Lifestyle. We met him and his wife at a house party and snuck upstairs with them for some sexy fun. Well, it wasn’t really fun! In the group chat leading up to the house party, Pete continually talked about how big his dick was. He shared several photos of it in order to draw attention to himself before the party.

While I’m not usually a lover of dick pics, even I was impressed with his 9" cock. Now, Pete is not a big guy! He stands at probably 5'9" to my 5'5". He is maybe 190 soaking wet, very fit, with a head full of jet black hair, blue eyes, and has a personality that is cocky but in an endearing way. When he pulled his penis out for me to suck, I was slightly intimidated. It was the biggest I’d ever seen in person.

After some easing in, I was able to get him hard. Upon entering me, I was immediately unsure about the size. However, of course, the vagina adjusts to the male partner in most cases, and before long Pete had me moaning in delight. While sex with Pete was fun, and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy myself, it was quite boring. Pete let his big dick do all of the work. He had one speed — jackhammer. While I like being fucked hard, it is nice to have a variety. I never slept with Pete again simply because I felt he thought his dick was enough, and it just wasn’t.

You’ve Got To Have More Up Your Sleeves (Or In Your Pants)

Men with gigantic dicks need to understand that women aren’t that impressed with them. Being railed by a 9–10 inch dick is not an ideal situation for most women. Sometimes, it even hurts! This is why it’s just as important for men with large penises to have other things to offer as it is for men with smaller ones.

Relying merely on your big penis is like showing up to a job interview with one thing on your resume. Is that all you have to offer? Ask yourself this:

How are your oral skills?

Do you have more than one position?

Can you last long enough for your female partner to cum?

Being well-rounded in the sack is imperative if you want to have the ladies coming back for more! Pete never got another chance with me, whereas Darryl, is one person I drop almost anything I have going for a chance to be with for the night. Performance matters!

Society Makes Shit Hard

Porn and other forms of sexual entertainment make it difficult to discourage the belief that all women prefer big cocks. Porn is littered with massive cocks, so much so that it is rare to see an “average-sized” male in videos.

Jokes and other sexual innuendos in mainstream media also bring a stigma towards men with smaller dicks. It’s as if males had something to do with being born with a dick that’s less than 8 inches or so.

Well, I’m here to tell you that none of it matters. It really fucking doesn’t. While some women are truly size queens, the vast majority of women I know personally, don’t give two shits how big your cock is. They just want to have good sex!

I’m not sure why some Medium readers believe I’m some kind of knowledgeable force on all things dick, but the one thing I do know is, if I had a good time with you, I’m more likely to come back. The best lovers I’ve ever had are those that didn’t brag, boast or exaggerate their sexual capabilities. When the time came, they just brought it. Many men with huge cocks, though lucky by nature, have become egotistical because of their gift.

These men need to take some time looking inward, and learning other skills that can please women. Because I know I’m not alone in the thought, that if I don’t get mine, I’m not coming back. So, you and your big dick will just have to figure it out on your own.

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