Money Isn’t Evil — Stop Believing The Lie You’ve Been Fed

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I’ve had an.. interesting relationship with money in my life.

I used to live with my mother, and we didn’t have a lot of it growing up.

It made me distrust money at best, and envy it at worst.

I saw my mother crumbling to the floor when we received a bill that was higher than we could afford.

That made me quite angry with money if I’m honest.

I had thoughts like:

Why wasn’t it in our lives?

Why was it causing my mother pain?

Why can’t we do the things we want and eat the things we want without worrying about our livelihoods?

Money mindset

It was not until recently that I realised that my money mindset was very screwed up.

Even now, in my adult life, I felt weird and awkward about money. I felt like I didn’t deserve a lot of it.

However, last year I took a course. It was a course on personal development using the Law of Attraction. It changed the way I looked at things dramatically.

From that moment, more personal development things started coming my way.

And soon, I started reading about money mindset, and how important it was.

Wealth is a mindset. It’s all about how you think. Money is literally attracted to you or repelled from you. — David Schirmer

Honestly, I thought it was a little ridiculous. How could your mindset change the amount you make, or how you feel towards it?

This was a little naive of me since I just did a course that involved changing your mindset to attract what you want. Lol.

So I started reading more and more about it, and soon realised all the things I believed about money. I realised I needed to mend my relationship with money.

I needed to put in the work like you would in any other relationship you wanted to improve.

Enter Dzanella Tihic.

Whilst this is definitely not a promotional post, I have got to say that I love her. I love her vibe. I love her e-mails. I love her programs and products.

She lives what she teaches. And what she teaches actually helped me improve some areas of my life significantly.

Now, I am learning how to change my money mindset with one of her other courses.

This course made me realise something: We’ve been fed the lie that money is evil.

But money *isn’t* evil.

It’s just something that we always heard from our surroundings, be it our parents, friends, other family members, or society in general.

That, I found, is a damaging way to think about money.

Because how could you ever appreciate all the things money does for you and can do for you, if you constantly villainise it?

Why money isn’t evil

Society is focused too much on the negative side of money. It is focused on all the bad things people do with it or for it.

That made me realise though.. money isn’t evil. People’s actions surrounding money, well that is a different story.

So in itself, money is neither good nor bad. It is just a way of paying for things.

It is what you do with it.

So why not change what we do with it?

Why not do amazing things for ourselves that make us feel good?

Why not do amazing things for others that make others feel good?

Change the way you look at money

If we want to do amazing things with money, and feel good toward it, we need to change the way we look at it.

We need to start recognising that it is an important tool in our lives.

To say it isn’t, like I used to do, might be a little naive.

Money is important, because it helps us nourish and sustain ourselves. It can help us nourish and sustain others, as well.

For example, money can buy you all the healthy and delicious foods to nourish yourself and your family.

It helps recharge you by enabling you to go on vacations that soothe your soul and reset your mind so you feel good again. This way, you can get recharged and be of service again to yourself and others.

And it can be used to make the world a better place. For example, there are tons of amazing foundations to which one could donate their money.

Money can also buy us time.

This way, you don’t have to work in a job that isn’t fulfilling for you, or that is bad for your health.

Instead, you can spend more time with your kids or loved ones. You can spend time learning new things. Or you can spend time finding a job or building a business that does make you happy.

There are countless other ways that money can be useful and good.

As long as it is used to contribute to the happiness and health of yourself and the world.

Or as Dzanella Tihic says:

“With harm to none; from love and service.”

It’s a means, not an end

I am not saying money is everything. It definitely isn’t.

You should not get lost in trading all your time to earn as much as you can, and working your health and relationships to the ground by doing so.

Prioritising money over time can actually be detrimental to our happiness.

The key here is not to be a slave to it.

The key is to find a way to earn enough money (preferably in a fun and fulfilling way), so you have plenty of time and means to live a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life.

Money is not the only answer, but it makes a difference. — Barack Obama

Takeaways

I don’t believe money is bad in itself. It is what is done with the money that makes it what it is.

Change the way you think about money. It helps you appreciate all the good things it can do in your life and the lives of others, and it will help you use money in positive and helpful ways.

And whilst it is not everything, it is an important tool that can help you live a happy, nourished, and fulfilled life.

Work on how you feel and think about it, so you can make the right decisions in order to live the life you love.

Love,

J

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