Mental Health: Misconceptions are the roots of Afflictions.
Many times we are always worried that we are not good enough or hard enough, but hard work itself is not the cause of anxiety. The cognitive misunderstanding that drives us to work hard is the real cause of anxiety. They exhaust people’s strength unknowingly, and the more they escape, the more they can’t escape their palms.
Although we can’t control the people and things around us, we can always control ourselves. Say goodbye to the misconceptions below to
1. Extreme thinking This is a “brick” that many people have in their hearts. The so-called black-and-white extreme thinking is obvious, that is, the world we see is either black or white, and it is difficult to see the gray area in between. It’s easy to think that something is either good or bad. A person either succeeds or fails.
In fact, very few things in this world are absolutely black and white, either, just as there is no one person in this world that is absolutely good or absolutely bad. The so-called good people sometimes do some not-so-good things; the so-called bad people sometimes have places that make people feel moved.
When we see a thing or a person in a black-and-white way, when a perception carries extreme words like “always, never, fundamentally, every time,” this is often the time when we are the furthest from the truth. And when we try to find the gray area between black and white, this is often when we are closest to the truth and most objective.
2. Blame it all on yourself This is arguably the most likely “brick” to create self-doubt. To blame everything on yourself, to put it bluntly is to feel that everything happens because of yourself.
People with such a habit of thinking often carry a deep sense of guilt and shame in their hearts. They subconsciously feel that they were born with problems and flaws, so they believe that they are the root cause of all bad things. However, if we go to the truth, we often find that there are other reasons for things.
It is precise because we seldom test and question our own thinking, and rarely have the opportunity to investigate the truth in real life, that many people always believe that they are the root cause of all problems, resulting in many avoidable misunderstandings in interpersonal relationships. and contradiction.
3. To generalize everything To generalize is to arbitrarily draw conclusions about a whole based on a single event. For example, I saw another client before, because her father cheated and her parents divorced, so she concluded that all men in the world cheated. This kind of cognition made her struggle very much in the relationship between marriage and love. Although she had talked with several good boyfriends before and after, she always broke up because she could not trust the other and believed that the other party would definitely cheat.
Similar examples are common in life. For example, if a speech fails, it is concluded that he is not the material for the speech. When I meet an unreliable engineering man, I feel that all engineering men are unreliable. The fatal thing about this type of thinking habit is that we can easily give up the determination to try again because of a temporary setback, thus losing the great opportunity that could have belonged to us.
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