Men & Women — Same Species, Different Worlds

The Differences Between Men and Women Are More Than Clear.

We are part of the same species, but somehow we belong to different worlds.

Many times we seem to be fighting with each other for supremacy! From my point of view, any struggle between the sexes is lost before it begins.

Are We a Strange Species?

NO! Just confused.

When it comes to our desires, we often feel to inhibit them, and then we struggle with ourselves. We struggle with all the instincts we don’t understand just because they are against morality.

If we made an effort to understand that the differences between us are normal, we could accept them. And then learn to live with each other without constantly feeling the painful weight of barriers.

The man’s brain is structured to evaluate and understand objects, the relationship between them, the importance of space, how everything works, and how to solve problems.

Why?

Because the man’s main occupation was hunting. He had to know: -how to orient himself in space over long distances, - how to develop various tactics to help him catch the prey, - how to ensure the livelihood and survival of his cubs.

Therefore, he did not have the time or need to know how to communicate. Or develop emotional needs. This is why the areas of the brain related to interpersonal relationships did not develop as much as in women.

The woman needed to manage in a limited space, and to protect and care for her children, she developed: - a wider visual perception, - a finer hearing, - the ability to do several things at once - the ability to communicate.

Everything was related to needs, therefore the brain developed and evolved according to these needs.

“To show his love for her, he climbed the highest mountain, swam in the deepest ocean, and crossed the most terrible desert. But she left him because he was never home. “

Why Do Men and Women Leave Each Other?

The man has this biological need to ensure a living. So, instead, he waits for the woman’s gratitude, which will confirm that the efforts made were worthwhile.

If she is happy, everything is fine, but if she is unhappy, the man will feel like a loser.

I have often heard men say, “I can never thank her. She doesn’t know what she wants.“ This feeling of uselessness and failure is a reason good enough for a man to leave a woman. He will leave for another who seems to be satisfied with what he can offer her.

One of the biological needs of women is communication.

Most of the time women are satisfied because they have a secure life and appreciate the man’s efforts in this regard.

But is the feeling of emotional failure what is missing? When they talk, women don’t need advice, but men are set to look for solutions because they have a more logical mind. While women think more intuitively.

Therefore, a woman talks about her problems to get rid of stress, not to look for solutions. Feeling disobedient and misunderstood, she will consider that she has a good enough reason to leave him.

For man: just learn to listen, without interrupting, so that she can free herself.

For woman: appreciate his work and efforts so that he does not feel a loser.

Note: The subject is very broad, and what I have written is in general to capture the idea of ​​the importance of knowing and accepting each other.

Needs and Imbalance

Sometimes separating from a partner can be very difficult.

Habits, children, society, comfort, etc. can intervene. There can be many reasons, but when an imbalance appears in a relationship, a pressure is formed and it is very difficult to control.

Partners suffer after meeting needs, and this creates stress and/or depression.

The human body, regardless of sex, is set to perpetuate the species, but also to seek well-being, relaxation, and comfort. Which is why there are desires for extramarital relationships.

Even When It Comes to Sexual Activity, We Are Different.

The man has an enthusiastic sexual impulse, the woman has a lower sexual impulse.

Strange or not, but these depend on the size of the hypothalamus and the amount of testosterone.

Why Did Nature Create Us Like This?

Why doesn’t the woman have the same sexual impulse to ensure the perpetuation of the species? Because she has to take care of raising the child until he will be able to take care of himself.

She needs to make sure the children survive and she needs a man for food and protection to help her survive.

So, after the appearance of the kids, the sexual impulse of the woman will be diminished, while the male will still have the ability to fertilize other females — a normal instinct.

Also, her attention will not be on him for a long time. This will make the man believe that his efforts are not enough to make her happy.

So: — he will feel a failure — he will seek the satisfaction of needs.

After conceiving and giving birth, she will feel stressed

So:  — she will need to talk a lot to free herself  — she will feel bombarded and overwhelmed  —she will look for solutions she does not need  — in the end, they will close in on them…

Even if the children have not yet appeared in a relationship, the imbalance will lead to desires that satisfy the lack of needs of both partners.

As I wrote, he will look for a woman who is happy with what he can offer her, and she will look for a man who will listen to her.

First, Everything Is Perfect

The man listens, is romantic, the woman offers a lot of sex.

Why?

This is the process of seduction for the two to make sure that they will conquer and manage to be with the one they see perfectly to perpetuate the species.

When we fall in love, a series of chemical reactions take place in our brain that will not be permanent, although we would like that. If you look a little closer to nature, you will notice that we look like many species of animals. The difference is that we have something extra: thinking.

Why Is It Not Normal If It Is Natural?

Because, although we are similar to many other species, we are different.

We have the term morality.

We feel that there is something in us besides just being animals. We have the belief that we were created, that we have a soul, that there is something unseen that guides our steps on this Earth.

Regardless of the reasons why the idea of ​​monogamy came about, even though sometimes we feel that this idea is contrary to our instincts, we have the faith and desire to have the same partner all our lives because we humans have defined the term love.

We have the capacity and intelligence to understand that we live in a world where what is too much generates problems.

• we can learn about each other,
• we can communicate about our feelings,
• we can educate ourselves,
• we feel empathy and love.

Look at Everything as a Challenge — as a Test.

The challenge of finding our balance. Education and communication are the keys. It’s not an easy test to pass, but it’s exciting. We need time to learn.

Education is the basis!

Note: For a better guide to understanding how we work, I recommend reading the series of books written by Allan and Barbara Pease. The books helped me find that balance between man and woman because I understood everything that was behind the curtain.