Summary

The article emphasizes the importance of foreplay for women's sexual satisfaction, arguing that men need to prioritize it over intercourse to truly please their partners.

Abstract

The article "Men Need To Understand Why Intercourse Is Second Place In The Bedroom" discusses the disparity between male and female sexual pleasure, highlighting that men often overlook the significance of foreplay. It suggests that men should adopt a more nuanced approach to sexual encounters, focusing on whole-body sensuality rather than just genital play. The author criticizes the stereotypical "caveman" approach to sex, where men prioritize their own pleasure, and instead advocates for a more intimate and empathetic understanding of what women find arousing. The piece underscores that women desire more than just penetration; they crave emotional and mental stimulation, which is often neglected by their male counterparts. By embracing the complexities of female arousal and engaging in extended foreplay, men can enhance the sexual experience for both partners, leading to more frequent and enjoyable sexual encounters.

Opinions

The author believes that men need to move beyond the basic 15-minute foreplay and recognize that it's about the quality of the experience, not the duration.
There is a clear distinction between what men and women typically enjoy in the bedroom, with women placing a higher value on foreplay and intimacy.
The article criticizes men who are dismissive of "touchy-feely stuff" and instead rush towards penetration without adequately arousing their partners.
It is suggested that men who take the time to learn and appreciate the nuances of a woman's body will find that intercourse is more satisfying for both parties.
The author points out that men often reach climax more easily than women, partly due to a lack of adequate foreplay.
The piece challenges the notion that sex begins and ends with penetration, emphasizing that for many women, foreplay is the main event.
It is argued that men should look beyond their own sexual desires and learn to enjoy the process of pleasing a woman in the way she needs.
The author shares personal experiences to illustrate the difference between a partner who understands the importance of foreplay and one who does not.
The article encourages men to explore resources such as Cosmopolitan magazine, lesbian porn, and romance novels to gain a better understanding of female sexual desires.

Men Need To Understand Why Intercourse Is Second Place In The Bedroom

We have come a long way since pillaging women caveman style

Listen, ladies and cavemen. I have an announcement to make. Sex isn’t the same for men and women and men need to realize a few things about what women enjoy most. I’m not only going to explain what this “thing” is, but I am also going to teach you how to be an intimate, uh, caveman.

Don’t worry, I will provide copious amounts of detail to provide the most up-to-date reasons why men need to step up their bedroom game. Do you want to know what that first-place bedroom activity is for women? Foreplay.

No, no. Not the basic 15-minutes you use to play with her breasts and finger her, it’s much more than that. And if you want to please a woman sexually to the point where she actually enjoys and wants to have frequent sex, then get out of your own stubborn head and take the advice of a woman, not your guy friends. Don’t assume you have to have an hour foreplay session to turn her on, it's not about time, it's about feeling.

Men vs women

With a few exceptions, men and women are not the same. Especially when it comes to the sexual realm of the relationship. While we both, men and women, enjoy sex, it’s separated by importance between intercourse and foreplay.

Some men thoroughly enjoy foreplay, while others would rather grab boobs and butt for a few minutes and then hop right into sex! My ex was the caveman type. The kind of man who would spit on his hand because he couldn’t get me wet enough. My current partner gets me so wet I legitimately need a mop.

Screw Ben Shapiro and his statement, “As I also discussed on the show, my only real concern is that the women involved — who apparently require a “bucket and a mop” — get the medical care they require. My doctor’s wife’s differential diagnosis: bacterial vaginosis, yeast infection, or trichomonas.” — Ben Shapiro — Any female who squirts knows full well, a mop or a lot of towels is needed!

The difference between most men and women when it comes to exploring sex isn’t as simple as most assume. While it is obvious both men and women enjoy getting freaky in the sheets, the time before sex isn’t looked at the same.

“Convinced that sex equals genital play, some men recoil from “all that touchy-feely stuff.” They view women’s preference for whole-body sensuality as an annoyance that postpones the hardcore action. However, leisurely, playful, whole-body massage enhances not only women’s experience of lovemaking but also men’s.” — Michael Castleman —

Who came first?

When it comes to sexual statistics, men and women vary in many different ways. Unfortunately, more men climax than women. Not only do more men climax, but they also enjoy sexual interaction much more than women as well.

Studies suggest that men are more likely to orgasm when full-on penetration is involved, versus women who prefer more intimacy and foreplay. This is all too common. I can’t tell you how many times I had to go finish myself off in a bathroom because of a man who thought I’d enjoy being bent over, dry, and pounded as much as he did. Newsflash! Women want to be preheated!

Most of the time, men are already preheated, a lot of men don’t need much to get hard and ready, whereas women typically crave a lot more physical, sensual, emotional, and mental stimulation. A kind of stimulation most men don’t bother giving for many different reasons. Taking the extra time to please her whole body for a lot of men is like hiking off-trail in flip-flops to get to a resort rather than easily driving — it is pointless to take the scenic route no matter how beautiful, they just want to get there.

Foreplay 101

What do you think of when you think of foreplay? Because I bet you most men and women will have an entirely different view on it. When you ask a man what foreplay is, most of the time if the man isn’t used to pleasing a woman’s whole body, he will assume foreplay is oral, with lots of grabbing, and fingering. When you ask a woman what foreplay is, she's going to respond much differently. Foreplay is knowing a woman’s body, teasing every inch of it while avoiding hotspots for the purpose of preheating her oven.

“Foreplay triggers a physical and emotional response in individuals preparing both mind and body for sexual intercourse. Sexplay gets the juices flowing by increasing sexual arousal. When blood flow to the genitals increases, it causes the vagina, labia, and clitoris to swell. Better stimulation leads to more natural lubrication and an increase in vaginal elasticity. Say bye-bye to dryness because the vagina’s natural lubrication “The Juices” increases, resulting in pleasure and less pain due to dryness.” — Amy Fuller —

The point of foreplay is simple, to turn on more than just a sex drive. Just like a car, even if you turn it on, it still won’t run if it’s out of gas, and fumes only get you so far. If the man doesn’t enjoy or genuinely wants to please and tease a woman, he’s not going to focus on her body in the way she needs.

Women want to be touched, kissed, held, and caressed; we want our bodies to be treated the way you want us to treat your meat stick. Foreplay is being sensual and mentally stimulating just as much as physical. Don’t just touch our hotspots, we want you to talk to us and use your fingers as therapeutically as possible all while opening up your own mind so you can enjoy our body’s reaction to your touch.

When my partner and I start getting sexual, he makes me wait 30+ minutes before he even touches a hotspot. Not because he thinks it will make sex better, but because he enjoys it. He enjoys watching me coil and pivot on the bed, soaking wet, and begging for just one small finger, just a touch.

If you want to be better at foreplay, for the sake of your partner, and for the sake of better and consistent sex, then you need to understand why intercourse means nothing, not even an orgasm, if you can't turn a woman's body, mind, and soul on.

Find out what she enjoys. Maybe kissing the inside of her knees, maybe tracing down the small of her back while you whisper nasty things, maybe using just the tip of your tongue to circle her areola while avoiding her nipple to build up tension, whatever it is, I promise you, it is the missing key factor in why she doesn’t want to have copious amounts of sex.

Climax

Women aren't impossible puzzles; we just get sexually aroused in a different manner. We aren't asking you to take a week off of work and worship our skin like we will grant you three wishes, we just want to be stimulated in the way our bodies crave, just like men do.

My ex sucked at foreplay, and because of that, I was always dry, always rushing sex, and I came maybe 30% of the time and that was only because I was stimulating myself. My current partner can make me climax from just foreplay. That is a prime example of how most women crave much more than penetration. Sure, when we finally do have sex I melt like a stick of butter in a lava pit, but that’s only because I was preheated properly.

We want to be wet just like you want to be hard. Men need to stop assuming their D-game is going to make women fawn over sex because it’s not about the D. My ex was 9+ inches and as thick as my wrist and I loathed sex. My current partner is 7in and I promise you, he knows how to “foreplay” so well that I wouldn’t even care if his D fell off.

I highly suggest reading a Cosmopolitan magazine, watching lesbian (amateur) porn, or other female-based sexual and emotional literature, romance novels, etc., to get a better understanding of what women want in the bedroom. If you enjoyed this article, tip me below!