Men Are Not Horny All the Time
Society has lied about men’s desire for intimacy
Men can pass on sex.
Even males have to work themselves up to get into the mood. It’s not his job to be ready when his partner wants sex. Men are human. Humans aren’t 100% excited about sexy moments every time.
I am shocked whenever I hear men turn down bedroom playtime. Most shows and comments online suggest men are horny all the time.
It was a while before I realized men portray themselves this way to prove their masculinity. And to suit the societal trope of being sex-driven — “I have testosterone, and I think about sex a lot.”
Commercials don’t say look and smell great to feel confident and love yourself. Nope, they say do this to get a woman.
Thus, men and women think sex is a sizable deal in relationships. But a man can pass up on sex, and it has nothing to do with you.
Men aren’t sex machines.
My beliefs about male sexuality got skewed by television and books. But I am not the only one who makes such assumptions about men. Reality doesn’t align well with popular societal beliefs. Nor does it often make for sizzling dramas.
Did you watch the Netflix movie — 365 Days: This Day? Then, you saw the writers use the idea of giving sex as a present.
This scene caused much discussion online. One group believed Massimo got this regularly, so it didn’t count as a present. Others thought the sex style was more submissive. Thus, this sex experience differs from the others. But men also welcome validation through friendship, respect, and bought offers of gratitude.
Modern-day movies are also giving examples of women being hornier than men. Mindy Kaling uses her work like The Sex Lives of College Girls to show women can also have high cravings for intimate moments.
Men can be clingy.
When I watched the sitcom, How I Met Your Mother, I thought Ted’s character was ridiculous. Yet, I felt Barney’s persona was more believable. I assumed men only wanted a connection after they were in a relationship with someone.
But every man is different. Just as no two women are not the same.
Though, more women want emotional, sexy time. Some women desire it hot and heavy with no string attached. Some men also differ from traditional definitions and want complicated love with all the feelings.
Aim to learn the love style of your partner rather than judge.
It hurts most to say this — women can flirt and get rejected.
The rules of some institutions are crazy.
We never tell men to control themselves. The woman always bears the responsibility and gets her options limited.
In March, Japanese schools banned ponytails, saying this hairstyle “sexually excites” the boys. Even when schools have no set uniforms, they have strict clothing rules.
I understand they have these for dignity and decorum reasons. But when have these rules ever been used to control how men’s bodies sexually excite women?
The truth? You can play with a man’s arm or hair, and it does not excite him. He has to like you or be in the mood to entertain such advances.
Takeaway
Let us not over-focus on the majority so much; we forget there are minority groups. All men aren’t horny all the time.
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