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Men and Multiple Orgasms

The In-Depth Guide on Becoming a Multi-Orgasmic Man

Multiple orgasms in men seems to be, for many, a thing of myths. An urban legend you might hear about, but it’s never going to happen to you. But it’s extremely possible, I believe, for just about anyone. There are some rather vague, click-bait articles online that discuss it in brief as an overview without much depth, so, having learned the skill myself, I figured I’d give a much more in-depth, step-by-step guide on how to do it for yourself, so you can enjoy the fruits and rewards of mastering your body in your bedroom.

More often than not, women are amazed by a man’s ability to have multiple orgasms and still continue the sex at hand; they marvel at the ability and self-control necessary, and it leads to rewards which should be quite self-explanatory.

For the multi-orgasmic men of the world, myself included, the orgasm doesn’t signify the end of sex, but rather, an amazing moment where pleasure is maximized — but there’s still more to come.

In my many years of dating, I’ve both experienced and observed a lot of things. I tend to dive into situations, cities, friendships, relationships, etc., quickly, without much of a second thought, and figure out what to do later. This has led to some pretty interesting observations in the world of sex and relationships, and one of the most fascinating observations is the differences between how men and women view sex. Much of the differences revolve around the orgasm and its role in sex.

This is largely rooted in our different biological structures, with different biological goals in sex, which lead to different desires and different values.

In my observation, women tend to generally tend to enjoy sex more for the sex itself, seeing it as a long experience of expression, passion, and desire, with peaks and troughs along the way; men tend to view sex as a linear progression towards orgasm, the “high point” of the sex, where their biological task can be accomplished and they can go on about their lives.

For women, sex is more experience-oriented, for men sex is more goal-oriented, to put it simply.

This is entirely understandable for both of the sexes, considering their biological make-up calls for different things, if we’re talking simple procreation, men definitely need to achieve orgasm — women do not. So it makes complete sense that men are much more orgasm-focused than women.

For men, their orgasm usually signifies the completion of the sex act, when the party ends. For women, it’s just another peak in a long succession of orgasms they enjoy. But I can testify firsthand that men too can learn how to not only view sex a bit more like women, but enjoy multiple orgasms like women do as well.

Learning to view things differently is the first step to becoming multi-orgasmic, as we learn that sex is an end in itself and not a means to the end of orgasm/ejaculation/procreation.

Did you know men could be multi-orgasmic? Here’s my story on how I have learned the practice and what I do to enjoy it, so that you may do the same, and gain a bit more mastery over your sexual health.

The Beginning

When I was a child, I accidentally stumbled upon a book on men who can have multiple orgasms and actually read it. I’m not exactly sure why, as at a young age of around 10, there was no way I could comprehend what was going on in the book that discussed the sex lives of adult males, but I read it nonetheless. I later sought this book out and began its practices, and over the years, much to my amazement, it worked.

Methods

There are actually many different methods which one can try to learn to become multi-orgasmic as a guy, from toys which halt ejaculation to Tantric and other sorts of religious practices which have quite a bit of merit to them, but I’ll cover what works for me.

Pelvic floor muscle exercises simply cannot be ignored. After reading the book again in adulthood, I began doing pelvic floor exercises as it instructed, which can give you an amazing flexibility and control in that region of the body. To do these exercises, you want to flex the Kegel muscle group, also called Kegel Exercises…more on this can be found here.

You know those muscles you flex when you’ve really got to go to the restroom, but you’re trying to hold it? Those are the vital muscles that you’ll need to work out and get good and strong. And you can work these over time, so it proved to be an extremely worthwhile practice to stop the urinary stream several times, anywhere from 4 to 5 times while I was using the restroom. This strengthened the muscle group necessary to be able to sort of clamp down and halt ejaculation.

These exercises are also good for many other things besides just sexual pleasure, they increase the overall health of the pelvic region. Contract these muscles as tightly as you can and hold for ten seconds — then let go. I did this all the time, if I found myself bored somewhere, I’d do some Kegel exercises, which is the beauty of these exercises, you can do the virtually anywhere unnoticed.

STOP!

Guys who suffer from premature ejaculation might want to listen up here, because this practice will help you to gain much more control over your body.

Another thing that’s powerful when learning to control your body is stopping yourself from “getting all the way there.” This can happen by yourself or with your partner, when you feel you’re approaching the ejaculatory event horizon, STOP. This is how you train yourself to do something powerful, which is separate the act of sex (including orgasm) from ejaculation, both in your mind and muscles. The more you practice this, as anticlimactic as it may be, the better you’ll get at it, and after a while, you won’t need to practice anymore.

I’m not going to lie to you, this takes some time, but it’s worth it.

You’ll enjoy a greater flexibility in how long you can perform the sex act and eventually you’ll get to a place where you can have an orgasm without an ejaculation and continue. In the meanwhile, you’ll learn to have greater control over your sex and prolong the experience if you wish to do so. With enough practice, you can actually learn to orgasm or ejaculate on command, which is great if you’re trying to reach climax in synchronization with a partner.

T-Minus Ten Seconds

Once you’ve got a handle on this and you can reliably stop yourself from crossing into the point of no return, you’re going to want to start utilizing those muscle groups as you approach that magic peak of orgasm.

The human body actually has two nervous systems, the somatic nervous system and the autonomic nervous system. These two trade off and can only operate at the same time to achieve one thing — the male erection. Aside from this, you’re using either one or the other.

The somatic nervous system falls under your conscious control, it’s the nervous system you use when you consciously choose to move or breathe. The autonomic nervous system is the branch of nerves and connections that fall outside of our conscious control, so it’s the one that blinks our eyes for us, or tells us to breathe when we don’t consciously do so.

The path to becoming multi-orgasmic is learning to gain control of that particular muscle group which tends to fall under the control of both nervous systems — that is, the muscles responsible for orgasm and ejaculation can happen either unconsciously, as happens with most people, or you can master to utilize them consciously, gaining a conscious control over those aspects of your sex life.

Having that said, once you get some practice stopping before that magic moment, and you’ve got some Kegel exercises under your belt (double entendre fully intended), you’re going to want to STOP yourself right as you’re about to approach climax — then FLEX those muscles. After some practice, if you do this right, you should be amazed at the moment you actually have an orgasm in isolation — without the ensuing ejaculation. This too is just a stepping stone.

From here, you should be able to keep going and continue sex, almost as if you pressed the “reset” button and started all over again from the beginning. In the interim, before you get it down fully, you may experience some time where you just begin to approach orgasm again within about 10 seconds or so, and that’s fine, enjoy it if you must, or stop yourself again, whichever you wish, but this is a sign that you’re on your way to controlling yourself enough to get to the place where you want to be: complete mastery of your pelvic region.

One more important thing to note, here, is the delay between orgasm and ejaculation. From the time when we can “feel it coming on,” and an actual ejaculation, us guys typically know it’s about to happen from about ten seconds out — T-minus 10 seconds from “I’m about to, I’m right there,” to actual climax and ejaculation.

The Delay

Believe it or not, there is a 2 to 6 second delay between orgasm and ejaculation. Most men tend to think they happen at the same time, but they do not, the orgasm happens first, then we continue until finish. This is your magic window, the window where you want to try the STOP technique if you can manage to, and keep doing so until you gain enough control to orgasm and continue without finishing. Once you’re able to do this, the rewards cannot be emphasized enough.

Women invariably love it, honestly. They can usually feel it happening and feel incredibly proud and happy at bringing their partner to such a height of pleasure, without it being the signal that the sex is over and its time to roll over and go to sleep. The smiles on their faces are the icing on the cake of multi-orgasmic sex — the enjoyment for the men who achieve this ability is the big, fat, beautiful, buttery cake.

Daydreaming and Meditation

Daydreaming is good for you, something I discussed at length in my story How Daydreaming Can Improve Your Overall Health, which can be found here, and it can actually help you in your process to becoming multi-orgasmic.

See, things like daydreaming and meditation not only help with focus in a very counter-intuitive way, they relieve stress and anxiety, two things which are pivotal in mastering the control of your body necessary to achieve multiple orgasms in a single sex session.

In short, daydreaming allows the “lookout” part of your nervous system time to just wander, giving important parts of your brain a workout so that they stay sharp — parts of your brain that would have needed to be alert in our ancestral history supposing you were suddenly attacked by a wild animal. These parts of the brain aren’t used when we focus on a task at hand, and if we focus on tasks long enough and they don’t get the exercise they need, we can become depressed, anxious, and there is some evidence that we make poorer moral choices and display less control over our faculties, especially ones that deal with abstraction.

These types of techniques can help you sharpen the parts of both the brain and mind necessary to be able to focus when you need to, which is absolutely vital. Becoming multi-orgasmic is as much of a mental effort as it is a physical one, and the body and mind need synchronicity to be able to achieve it. Doing Kegels is a great way to gain some of the focus, but meditation and intentional daydreaming, as silly as it may sound to some, cannot be understated as well — sometimes its the subtle things that prove to have the most powerful effects on our lives.

In Closing

In closing, I’ll note that while I believe that EVERYONE can achieve this amount of flexibility and control, it may take some more time and effort than others because, after all, everybody is different and every body is different. Ultimately, you’ll find what works for you, and this story is by no means exhaustive, so look around and do some searches on the subject, but it absolutely is very possible and extraordinarily worth it.

Now when a man actually ejaculates, there is a massive flood of hormones which essentially shuts his body down and it goes into rest and recovery mode, so orgasms without this aren’t quite the same, but they’re still amazing nonetheless. One doesn’t experience “the little death” when we just have orgasms, it happens because of ejaculation.

If you have any further questions, feel free to comment or contact me, I’ll be glad to answer them. As usual, if you’ve made it this far, I both thank and applaud you.

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