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ose that we don't want to be in their company anymore.The guilt kicks in and it just seems easier to stay where we are. But this is not a reason to stay in a group of people who are starting to drag you down.You have to put yourself and your needs first.<h2 id="ab89">How?</h2>So how the hell do I meet this new tribe you might ask?Well, darling, I am sorry to tell you but you need to get really comfortable with being uncomfortable.I have found since I am much more aligned with who I truly am now and living a more authentic life, people start to gravitate towards me, but you need to get the ball rolling yourself first.When I worked in the corporate world in Dublin, Ireland, I used to make myself go to women in business networking events and conferences by myself so I had a network when it was time for me to go on my entrepreneurial journey.I have taken the same approach in my personal life.Before I started getting out of my comfort zone on these solo endeavours, I made sure I got really self-ware first and knew what type of people I wanted to be surrounded by so I didn't end up with the wrong tribe.If you haven't completed this step I suggest you do it before you go trying to find your new besties.The type of people I wanted to be surrounded by was, a positive, abundance mindset, want to live life to their greatest potential, can hold a deep conversation that isn't revolved around the latest reality TV show, open to spirituality, kind, and brave.Once I knew the type of people I wanted to be surrounded with, I started inserting myself into environments where I knew they would be.Women's Circles, yoga and pilates studios, coffee shops, and also online platforms.Was it enjoyable at first? Nope.</b

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Was it awkward? Yep.Did I want to retreat back into the comfort of my home and never venture out again? Yep.But as an extrovert, I need human connection to energise me. And not just extroverts, we all need human connection.The introverts out there might tell me to be quiet, but it's in our DNA. We thrive off having a supportive community around us.As a result of all this uncomfortable awkwardness, I have found my tribe.It didn't happen overnight and it is something you need to put effort into but being surrounded by like-minded people who share the same vision and goals as you, with who you can sit down and talk about the deepest of the deepest stuff, is so energising.So get to know you first. Get to know what you truly want in this life. What you enjoy. What gives you energy. Your hopes and dreams and then start putting yourself in environments where you know people who align with all you want in this life will be.Remember…Nothing good ever came from comfort zones.If you liked my story, become a member and <a href="https://medium.com/@corey.a.casey/membership">subscribe to Medium</a> to read all you want each month, including my articles.<div id="fc8f" class="link-block">

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Meeting New People as an Adult Is No Easy Task

How I found my tribe of likeminded people

It is only natural that as we get older, the people in our life change.

Interests and lifestyles change. People move away from their hometowns. Or if you are like me, you will have gone through this massive healing shift/awakening and are now trying to relearn who you truly are.

When this shift happens, the people who fit into our lives may not fit as well as before.

Leaving the old behind

We are the average of the 5 people we surround ourselves with, and I truly believe this.

Your tribe can be the making or breaking of you. This is why it is so important we find the right people to surround ourselves with.

In saying that, finding new friends as we get older is HARD.

We have lost the carefree approach to life we had as kids. We now feel awkward or get embarrassed when we have to approach someone we don't know.

Even though moving country and not knowing anyone is hard, I think it made it easier for me in a way to meet new people as I didn't have my old crew to fall back on. I either had to put my big girl pants on or be a loner for the rest of my time.

When we are still surrounded by the old crew that may not be aligned with us anymore, it can be harder to break away and find a new tribe as we may hurt those that we don't want to be in their company anymore.

The guilt kicks in and it just seems easier to stay where we are. But this is not a reason to stay in a group of people who are starting to drag you down.

You have to put yourself and your needs first.

How?

So how the hell do I meet this new tribe you might ask?

Well, darling, I am sorry to tell you but you need to get really comfortable with being uncomfortable.

I have found since I am much more aligned with who I truly am now and living a more authentic life, people start to gravitate towards me, but you need to get the ball rolling yourself first.

When I worked in the corporate world in Dublin, Ireland, I used to make myself go to women in business networking events and conferences by myself so I had a network when it was time for me to go on my entrepreneurial journey.

I have taken the same approach in my personal life.

Before I started getting out of my comfort zone on these solo endeavours, I made sure I got really self-ware first and knew what type of people I wanted to be surrounded by so I didn't end up with the wrong tribe.

If you haven't completed this step I suggest you do it before you go trying to find your new besties.

The type of people I wanted to be surrounded by was, a positive, abundance mindset, want to live life to their greatest potential, can hold a deep conversation that isn't revolved around the latest reality TV show, open to spirituality, kind, and brave.

Once I knew the type of people I wanted to be surrounded with, I started inserting myself into environments where I knew they would be.

Women's Circles, yoga and pilates studios, coffee shops, and also online platforms.

Was it enjoyable at first? Nope.

Was it awkward? Yep.

Did I want to retreat back into the comfort of my home and never venture out again? Yep.

But as an extrovert, I need human connection to energise me. And not just extroverts, we all need human connection.

The introverts out there might tell me to be quiet, but it's in our DNA. We thrive off having a supportive community around us.

As a result of all this uncomfortable awkwardness, I have found my tribe.

It didn't happen overnight and it is something you need to put effort into but being surrounded by like-minded people who share the same vision and goals as you, with who you can sit down and talk about the deepest of the deepest stuff, is so energising.

So get to know you first. Get to know what you truly want in this life. What you enjoy. What gives you energy. Your hopes and dreams and then start putting yourself in environments where you know people who align with all you want in this life will be.

Remember…

Nothing good ever came from comfort zones.

If you liked my story, become a member and subscribe to Medium to read all you want each month, including my articles.

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