Mea Culpa?

Standing up to archaic patriarchal beliefs is a messy affair. Mostly because you yourself hold these beliefs dear to your heart unconsciously.

As women, we unconsciously hold ourselves to a different set of standards from men based on deep seated indoctrination that started the moment we pooped our heads from mommy’s body.

Immediately the announcement ‘it’s a girl or boy’ happened, the miseducation started.

Even in the most egalitarian of homes and with the best intentions.

So we watched the lead male character in Mea Culpa boast about his sexual activities, sleeping with every woman he met and were miffed with Mea’s characterization?

Why? ‘Boys will be boys. Girls should be well behaved and have self control.’ Or ‘it’s better for the man to cheat.’ ‘A man that has multiple sexual partners is a stud. A woman that does the same is a whore.’

Archaic beliefs that help no one, not the man and not the woman.

Do we realize that issues that arise from indiscretions affect both and the people connected to them?

In 2024, the risk of pregnancy is only a risk for the uneducated woman

Proper sexual education takes care of that and should be the focus if we had sense, but common sense is not common.

The risk of STD’s affect both. Or is there any that affects only women?

(For spiritual people, spiritual wife is as much a problem as spiritual husband, innit? Or is it soul ties) In bracket because I hold no personal views about these. Don’t believe them… but for you who do, true right?

The only real difference is in what we all think. ‘Sex is a man’s game, a woman’s end.’

N.B. This is not really about sex but the double standards we as women unconsciously enable.