Me Dealing With My Online Dating Life

Online Dating as an adult is like going to the dump and looking around for the least broken and disgusting thing.

After being actively doing online dating for a while, I think, I am going to be Single for my entire life.

I know, everyone is not the same and one size fits all is not the right thing to think. But somehow, I am attracting all kind of jerks on my way.

My Open letter is to the guy I recently get acquainted with and it made me wonder WHY and WHAT am I doing there.

Dear Sam — If I text you first on a dating app or reply instantly, it doesn’t mean I am desperate for you. I am being kind, a good human being, and saving you that 365 hours of mental and physiological therapy sessions where you would ask the same question to 10 different therapists- why are you still single?

See, I care for you and of course for your money. ‘Time is money’, you taught me this once upon a time. Remember when you canceled on me just to attend that ‘important’ work meeting that came from nowhere.

Dear Sam— When I am on a date with you, I can pay bills(or you call it a ‘check’ just to sound posh).

When we are on a date, it’s not your whole responsibility to pay the bills. If you decide to pay, it’s your own choice. Don’t let patriarchy win and say, it’s a male job to pay the bills, thus you are paying.

I am financially independent and certainly can afford my coffee.

Dear Sam— I am not an attention seeker when I do not answer your call or do not reply to your text. Get the hint, not interested in you. I am not playing a game with you and not every woman like a chase.

It’s not a hunting show where you will get a trophy for your 1000 non-stop messages or 100 calls a day streak. I have a life beyond your little existence and perhaps I have moved on and I think you should too. It’s high time now.

Dear Sam— I am not underweight or tiny cute girl. Not all women are delicate like a flower. I have dealt a lot of pretty hard sh!t in my life(including you).

Yeah, I might not be able to carry a 30KG luggage bag or may not be able to get a jar from a far top shelf. But I have dealt with many situations and some are pretty rough.

I certainly am emotionally and mentally strong — though I still cry while watching the same movie ten thousand times. Don’t take this as my weakness.

Dear Sam— Yes I am single and not available. Do not think every single woman is looking for a hook-up or wants to get married the next day. I also have other priorities in my life just like you do. Maybe I want to focus on my career, or just want to enjoy my singlehood status.

Not every girl is desperate for a romantic relationship. I also can have no string attached relationship without investing emotionally(just like you always do).

Dear Sam— I am more than my looks. I am a woman of substance and have my own mind and opinions. I can discuss economics to current climate change to politics to current affairs to football to latest buzz to gossips to what not. Don’t let looks fool you.

Always remember, looks can be deceptive.

I pretend not to know things because I want you to feel superior and so that you can be proud of yourself — the only thing that matters most in your life.

Dear Sam — Yes, god or higher almighty or anything you believe in, given me a blessing to bear a child, but I am more than that; just not a birthing machine where I am there to give you three children (you decided on numbers, remember?) and you want to keep your ‘royal’ bloodline active.

Not all women relate to motherhood and it’s okay if I say I don’t want to have kids. It’s my choice. Stop shaming or doubting my motherly instincts. I can still be motherly without having my biological kids.

No one asks the question when you decide not to have kids( if you ever can). People think you are bold and brave and applaud you on your decision. My woman(mother) hood is still intact and will not go away if I decide not to bear your children. I swear, I checked it yesterday.

Dear Sam — I know how to make a good investment in stocks or how to book an Uber or how to file taxes or buy that damn expensive car. I know it all.

When I ask for help or a suggestion, I just let you have your manhood illusion. That you can keep your ego and you can carry on with your life so do I. I know your mamma told you to be a Man and this is the only way you know how to be one. Not your fault though. Not your fault.

P.S. — I changed the name to keep his stride high. But you know who you are.

Be Bold

Be Courageous

Be Your Best

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