Summary

The article discusses the complex nature of change and its impact on individuals, offering various perspectives on how to cope with and understand change.

Abstract

The author of the article expresses an initial fear of change and the decision to befriend it to gain a clearer understanding. Change is described as an unpredictable force that can be both beneficial and challenging, often arriving unannounced and leaving when least expected. The article introduces the concept of "MAYBE" to present different attitudes towards change, such as hoping for improvement, convincing oneself of its inherent goodness, accepting it as destiny, or viewing it as temporary. The author acknowledges that while change can be difficult for adults, it is often met with excitement by children, suggesting a shift in perspective may be necessary. The article encourages readers to question their resistance to change and to navigate through the "traffic" of thoughts to find calm and patience in the face of life's transitions.

Opinions

Change is initially feared but befriending it can lead to a better understanding.
Change is seen as having a dual nature: it can be a bitter pill to swallow or a positive force.
The author reveals a personal favorite perspective: viewing change as happening for the good, even if it's not the best coping mechanism.
When change is inevitable, people may tell themselves that it could work out, as a way to find acceptance.
Attributing change to destiny is seen as a form of giving up, accepting change without genuine consent.
The author warns against living in fake optimism by believing that negative changes are only temporary.
Adults are encouraged to learn from children, who typically react to change with excitement rather than resistance.
The article suggests that self-reflection and changing one's perspective can make the process of dealing with change more manageable.
The author shares a personal strategy for dealing with change: viewing intrusive thoughts as traffic to be navigated calmly and patiently.
The article concludes with the idea that external changes should not dictate internal states, advocating for resilience in the face of change.

MAYBE(S)- That Change Brings to Your Mind

Change Caught Slacking

Finally! I caught you.

I am petrified of the change. So, I decided to be friends with to understand what exactly this thing is. At the initial stage, my understanding was as clear as mud, but it developed slowly and I realized change is a bitter pill to swallow but rarely, not always.

There is a secret I want to tell you about change. It always comes unnoticed and suddenly shakes everything. But when we want it to happen, it becomes a snail. It’s a very bad attitude of the ‘change’. It betrays us. When we want to hold on to something, it goes away and when we want to let go of something, it just stays longer. Sometimes it leaves us suffering and it seems there is nothing we can do.

Change in life is inevitable, without change life is nothing, change is the never-ending process, change is this, change is that and change is what not. So, here I am with some “MAYBE” (maybes) which could give you a better perspective to develop your understanding of change.

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IT WILL GET BETTER

Yes, Maybe ‘It Will Get Better’ is the Mantra. To cope with change, most people go with ‘it will get batter’ strategy. But, here’s a secret to this Mantra. We just hope for things to get better without actually doing anything. Well. There is nothing wrong with hoping but we need to let it change. It won’t happen out of the blue or on its own.

#MAYBE

IT IS FOR GOOD

This one is my favorite. When something changes and I could not accept it, then I convince myself by telling that it’s happening for good. However, it’s not the best way to cope with it, but let’s say it’s not even the worst.

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WHO KNOWS, IT COULD WORK

Now this one is for the kind of situation where there is no option but to change the existing. It happens when we don’t want to change but we have to, and then we somehow try to make ourselves happy by telling this ‘yes this will work’ or ‘maybe it could work’ anyway, we don’t have other option.

#MAYBE

THAT IS MY DESTINY

God has something else in his mind for me and it resulted this way.

Here I don’t think I should say anything because this is something you think when you give up and accept nevertheless. But, this acceptance is not what will make you happy. Here you accept it without your heart and it will kill you inside.

#MAYBE

IT IS TEMPORARY

This can be positive or negative. If it’s positive then you are lucky and if it’s not, then you are living in a fake optimism. You don’t want to disappoint or fool yourself by telling yourself it’s temporary and then punish yourself when you realize it wasn’t.

I sometimes wonder why this thing is hard for us, us means we adults. Have you seen kids? How they react to changes. they are mostly exited. I have seen many people appreciating changes in their life. it’s not like that everyone hates it. This article was for people who fear change.

Ask yourself a question. Why is it this much hard? And find answers from others. Try to change your perspective on change. Try to see that from someone else’s eyes and realize what you lack seeing that.

I Would like to share what i do when this happens to me. When things are not in the place, our mind just thinks a lot. So, for instance let us take change as bothering factor. For Example I am so much comfortable with my comfort zone and i don’t want to let go. Very next moment I thing but my comfort zone is going away for a reason. Here, basically I am just thinking, I don’t want to think but, these thoughts are playing with y mind and i am not able to do anything.

In this scenario I would consider these thoughts as traffic. The traffic, from which I want to make my path. So, we don’t pay attention to the traffic, so I won’t pay attention to these thoughts. Eventually I will try to stay calm and make my path by being patient. Thinking this will make you feel little comfortable with that constant mind voice and also help you to find your way out from that terrific traffic of thought.

We should not allow a little External change to change us Internally.

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Happy Reading.