Making The Same Mistakes Over And Over Again

Why do we do it

Sometimes we have to make the same mistakes over and over again to learn. When we invest the time in working on ourselves we will undoubtedly come across our destructive cycles and patterns. It isn’t always the easiest thing to face, and we can’t quickly fix ourselves, we require ongoing work.

These patterns and cycles aren’t always simple to bring to an end. Often we have to face our own destruction time and time again. It can sometimes feel like we’re on a hamster wheel, not going anywhere quickly, but of course, this is an illusion, and we are going somewhere- if we’re putting in the work.

People have to face all sorts of ways that they sabotage themselves. We each have many complex patterns we often just forget to question. Looking at yourself in this way is not for the faint of heart. It is for the courageous to take the road inward.

The cycles and patterns we engage in can take many forms. Perhaps you may be more self-destructive in your relationships, or your work life, or your friendships. But if you keep attracting similar scenarios and types of people, it’s always worth reminding yourself, and asking the question…

What has the past and my self-awareness now taught me about this situation before?

If things feel like they are happening over and over to teach you something. Perhaps they are. And perhaps the thing you need to learn, you may not be ready to hear yet.

We’re used to moving at a fast pace in the world. Going from one place to the next, quickly doing this and that. When we turn in and venture to find a deeper understanding of ourselves it’s easy to feel like our progress is not happening, or it’s not fast enough. Just like the seasons in nature though, nature has its own pace, and we too are part of this.

It is easy to think we are separate from nature, but we’re not. We function in cycles and patterns too, and we take time to learn from our mistakes. Sometimes many times. If you’ve ever made a mistake or faced the same disappointment one too many times, remember that a part of the journey of self-discovery is to find compassion for yourself in the times you may find it the hardest.

Sometimes we need to come up against something over and over to learn more than one thing. Every chance to face difficulties and hurt is a chance to level up your understanding, self-compassion, trust, and knowledge of yourself. In this sense, our patterns can become great teachers and gifts.

When you go on the journey of self-discovery, you will find it is an emotional rollercoaster. Opening yourself up to the universe is the best way to being open to receiving many chances to better yourself and also many chances to receive gifts.

When people make the same mistakes over and over again they tend to come down on themselves. They tend to punish themselves. This is not a good way to learn though. This in itself becomes the lesson sometimes. Often the lesson is to not be too hard on yourself.

We can only truly learn about our mistakes, limitations and humanness if we hold deep compassion and empathy for ourselves.

If you find yourself caught in never-ending cycles or if you find yourself always at the same outcome. Ask the questions for clarity, do the work to uncover your truth. This is so you can figure out what you need to change. Most importantly you have to be willing to change.

Sometimes out of our mistakes the most beautiful ideas are formed, or we meet the most amazing people. Often our mistakes are peppered with hidden treasures. Seek to find these treasures, the things that will help you to remember just how unimportant our mistakes are in the grand scheme of things. We judge our mistakes as such bad things, but in reality, they are just so natural, so human.

We have so many layers and parts of ourselves to discover, it is such a fascinating thing to get to know yourself. It is a never-ending venture, an adventure full of shocking discoveries time and time again.

Part of the enjoyment of being human I think is in this pursuit. What amazing work this is to invest in.