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tside of your comfort zone. Just take it slow, look into situations as objectively as you can, and at times compromise on the small stuff.</p><p id="a834">Never let anyone take advantage or control you, instead communicate and look at each situation from their point of view. The simple things are easy, if you don’t want Chinese food for dinner and she does, get take out and eat together from different places. Although not ever decision will be that easy, sometimes learning to compromise on the little things prepares you for the big things.</p><h1 id="a35b">No One Is Perfect</h1><p id="0bd0">You are both going to have bad days. There will be times that little things drive you crazy. Instead of arguing or nagging, always think to yourself ‘is this worth it?</p><p id="0c96">It sounds so petty, but one of my biggest pet peeves used to be that my husband leaves a t-shirt on the bathroom floor every morning. I used to get so irritated about it, and after 13 years I still pick on him for doing it. It doesn't bother me anymore because at some point I realized it just wasn’t worth it. Was I really going to add tension to our marriage because of something that small? In the long run, I realized I would rather pick it up every morning than one day it not be there.</p><h1 id="3d1e">Don’t Lose Yourself</h1><p id="c927">You will grow and change over time. As your priorities change and life changes along with it, it is important to know yourself. No, I have never been a fan of the saying you have to love yourself before you can love someone else, but you do have to take care of yourself.</p><h1 id="004e">Don’t Give Up</h1><p id="9559">Never settle for an abusive relationship! But also, never give up. If you love them, they treat you well, and you are happy, be stubborn. It isn’t an easy road, but if you look at each other and promise not to give up one each other and stick it out even when it is hard… it get

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s so much easier.</p><p id="ceef">Around year 2, my husband and I had gone through a really rough patch. The best decision we ever made for our marriage was that the next time someone said they were leaving, they had to mean it. And that we would sleep in our bed together every night, no matter how mad we were.</p><p id="d21c">It was basically a promise to not give up on each other. 13 years later, I would say it is still the best decision we made. It is easy to say your giving up, it is even harder to actually do it. Those words usually hurt more than they help.</p><h1 id="a672">Trust Yourself And Your Partner</h1><p id="d039">You have to trust yourself! Trust your feelings and your gut instincts! If you love this person and they love you, that should be what matters. If something feels wrong or you feel like you are trying to change who you are for that person, they don't love you, they love who they want you to be.</p><p id="2428">Love is raw, dating is nice and pretty, but love is the ugly stuff. It’s aging, having kids, growing old, sickness, no make-up, morning hair, and… t-shirts on the bathroom floor. Its all the things you never wanted to show anyone else. You have to trust that person to not only accept who you become, but love you for it.</p><p id="a35e">You deserve better than someone who would abuse you. That is not forever love. If they tell you you’re ugly now, how are they going to act when you get sick? Or after you have a baby? Find someone that makes you happy above all else.</p><p id="54a9">Love is a powerful tool. It can tear you apart, or it can make every single struggle worth it. Don’t settle for money, or someone who doesn’t treat you right.</p><p id="0ea1">Forever is a long time to live in someone's shadow. Walk beside them, hold hands, and don’t let go. The world will fall apart more than once, but it will never break you down if you don’t let it.</p></article></body>

Making Love Last

How Do You Make Love Last Forever?

Everyone who has been in a relationship for a long time knows it can get stale. We learn and grow as people, and sometimes during those changes, we grow apart. The fact of life is, we are constantly changing and evolving. So how do we make love last in a society where everything is disposable.

Confession

I have been married for almost 13 years, and I have no idea what the answer to that question is. We have grown, changed jobs, had kids, lost loved ones, and everything that life threw at us, we had to deal with together.

There is no simple answer. I think to a point, most long terms relationships end because you fall out of love. You loved a previous person, and that person no longer exists. The hope is that if you evolve that you continue to fall in love with that person, over and over. I think.

Communication

Yes, everything you read, therapist, how-to books, and more all point you to communication. You have to be able to communicate with the person you are sharing your life with.

Not just communicating about emotions but communicating as your wants and needs change. If you once loved going out to eat on the weekends and now want to order in, just tell them.

Compromise

At the end of the day, you are still two different people with two different sets of needs. You won’t always agree. Compromise doesn't mean you have to live outside of your comfort zone. Just take it slow, look into situations as objectively as you can, and at times compromise on the small stuff.

Never let anyone take advantage or control you, instead communicate and look at each situation from their point of view. The simple things are easy, if you don’t want Chinese food for dinner and she does, get take out and eat together from different places. Although not ever decision will be that easy, sometimes learning to compromise on the little things prepares you for the big things.

No One Is Perfect

You are both going to have bad days. There will be times that little things drive you crazy. Instead of arguing or nagging, always think to yourself ‘is this worth it?

It sounds so petty, but one of my biggest pet peeves used to be that my husband leaves a t-shirt on the bathroom floor every morning. I used to get so irritated about it, and after 13 years I still pick on him for doing it. It doesn't bother me anymore because at some point I realized it just wasn’t worth it. Was I really going to add tension to our marriage because of something that small? In the long run, I realized I would rather pick it up every morning than one day it not be there.

Don’t Lose Yourself

You will grow and change over time. As your priorities change and life changes along with it, it is important to know yourself. No, I have never been a fan of the saying you have to love yourself before you can love someone else, but you do have to take care of yourself.

Don’t Give Up

Never settle for an abusive relationship! But also, never give up. If you love them, they treat you well, and you are happy, be stubborn. It isn’t an easy road, but if you look at each other and promise not to give up one each other and stick it out even when it is hard… it gets so much easier.

Around year 2, my husband and I had gone through a really rough patch. The best decision we ever made for our marriage was that the next time someone said they were leaving, they had to mean it. And that we would sleep in our bed together every night, no matter how mad we were.

It was basically a promise to not give up on each other. 13 years later, I would say it is still the best decision we made. It is easy to say your giving up, it is even harder to actually do it. Those words usually hurt more than they help.

Trust Yourself And Your Partner

You have to trust yourself! Trust your feelings and your gut instincts! If you love this person and they love you, that should be what matters. If something feels wrong or you feel like you are trying to change who you are for that person, they don't love you, they love who they want you to be.

Love is raw, dating is nice and pretty, but love is the ugly stuff. It’s aging, having kids, growing old, sickness, no make-up, morning hair, and… t-shirts on the bathroom floor. Its all the things you never wanted to show anyone else. You have to trust that person to not only accept who you become, but love you for it.

You deserve better than someone who would abuse you. That is not forever love. If they tell you you’re ugly now, how are they going to act when you get sick? Or after you have a baby? Find someone that makes you happy above all else.

Love is a powerful tool. It can tear you apart, or it can make every single struggle worth it. Don’t settle for money, or someone who doesn’t treat you right.

Forever is a long time to live in someone's shadow. Walk beside them, hold hands, and don’t let go. The world will fall apart more than once, but it will never break you down if you don’t let it.