Love Without Borders
We are humans first before anything else.

“If you want to marry her, you must convert to Christianity”
“He’s black, you can’t possibly want to be with him”
“We don’t marry from that village. They are Osus”
“You can’t possibly marry from that caste”
“Who is his family? Nameless? You can’t marry him”
Can we stop already?! Can we?!
Because of differences in beliefs, cultures, languages, race, ethnicity, background, color, socio-economic status, we decide that we are so different that love and connections shouldn’t exist between us. We build unnecessary borders and walls to separate each other.
Why are we so scared of differences? Are we just scared of change? Afraid of learning or accomodating? Or is it the usual case of my own is better and more superior than yours?
I’ve watched people let the love of their lives go because their families didn’t accept their choice of a partner for one difference or the other. People have broken up beautiful relationships because some system has labeled it taboo to be together.
It’s sad!
Honestly, I think that labeling does more harm than good for us humans. Yes, labeling human behavior helps us organize our thoughts and actions and helps keep order in the world, but it also brings about stigmatization. We start seeing people as their labels, not as fellow humans.
I often wonder that maybe if we didn’t separate the world into continents, countries, and states or even find a name to differentiate colors, we would not have noticed the differences that have become so hard for us to accept.
It’s sad that once we notice a single difference, we capitalize on it to look for reasons we cannot accommodate the next person. We forget that fundamentally, we are humans first.
We are humans before we are black or white. We are humans before we are Christian, Muslim, or any other religion. We are humans before we are Brahmins or Dalits. We are humans before Nwadiala or Osu. We are humans before we are rich or poor, famous or not.
We are humans before any differences. We are humans first before anything else.
