“Love bombing” — this is how psychopaths fall in love with themselves. 9 typical manifestations

Today we’ll talk about “lovebombing” or love bombing. This technique is often used by destructive partners, in particular psychopaths, to quickly make a person fall in love with them, make him/her dependent on them, and establish control over them.

Of course, it is not always possible to 100% recognize where the love bombing is and where it is simply the behavior of a person in love.

Signs of “lovebombing”

Here are clues that this is most likely a love bombing, and in front of you is a destructive partner, a relationship with whom will bring a lot of pain.

- Quantity is more important than quality

You are inundated with words and confessions. At the same time, quality and relevance may leave the best. They take exactly in quantity.

- Templates and facelessness

Little consideration is given to your personality traits, your tastes, and your wishes. There is a lot of typical, formulaic stuff.

- The person practically does not react to feedback from you

You can say that something is unpleasant to you. You can express any wishes. But it feels like a person is simply following a certain program.

- When a person receives reciprocity, the pace drops sharply

After he/she saw your interest and realized that you were “stuck”, your behavior changed dramatically for the worse.

Typical manifestations of love bombing

1) Quickly and easily confess their love

Almost on the first day they say very loud phrases. You are called “the man/woman of your life.” They tell you that there was no happiness before you, etc.

2) They overwhelm you with confessions, compliments, and loving content.

There’s just a lot of content: they constantly write messages, call 10 times a day, send emojis and postcards.

3) Lots of flashy gestures of attention over a short period of time

Some loud gestures. For example, in front of everyone in a restaurant they confess their love for you, ask you to marry you and offer to have a child right away, etc. Have you known each other for a couple of days…

4) They demand a response to every gesture

They are offended if you did not react properly to some kind of recognition.

5) Move to rapid rapprochement

They strive for quick intimacy, ask to visit you, offer to move in together.

6) Violate personal boundaries

They can touch on too personal topics without asking, showing that you are like family and have nothing to hide from each other. They may ask too much detail about your life, your surroundings, and give unsolicited advice.

7) They serve control with the sauce of care, strengthen this control

During the love bombing, they also try to surround you with care. Although this is closer to “smothering” with care. Quite quickly, through this concern, a person can establish complete control over you, know about all your movements, begin to dictate who you communicate with and what to wear.

8) They try to isolate you from the world

So that you spend all your time with him/her. They are trying with all their might to push other familiar, friendly surroundings into the background. In some cases, they may deliberately quarrel with you.

9) Play superheroes

If you need some minor help or advice, this person will immediately rush to help. He will play the role of a hero, Mother Teresa, and will pretend that he is sacrificing a lot for you. You will remember your contribution for a long time later. Although in fact something minor may be done that you could do without.