Listening To The Gut And Forging Ahead
It’s what we have to do!
I’ve admitted to being a whiner and a complainer. But I am also something else. I’m that person who gets the job done. I might be kicking and stomping my feet while I’m doing it, but I do it.
Then there are the people who spend a lifetime complaining and making excuses for being the way they are. They say that they don’t have any money, but you realize that they are holding a brand new purse.
Their house is a mess, and when you offer up a suggestion on how to get a handle on it, they say no one will help them.
They have that thing that Dr. Phil calls the “yes, but” syndrome. This is the syndrome where when someone offers a suggestion, you answer with an excuse.
You might say, “My son is disrespectful to me.”
The suggestion might be, “So take away his phone, car, game system.”
Your answer, “Yes, but he needs his phone, car, game system because…”
Your friend might be toxic and says hurtful things to you. You excuse her because you don’t want to be friendless.
Your husband mistreats you. You say you don’t want to be alone.
Everyone has that gut feeling. Stop ignoring it and do what you need to do. It’s why we have one.
Every time I’ve felt that feeling in my gut and then ignored it, I’ve regretted it.
Every.Single.Time!
No one says that you should change things overnight. Take baby steps. Baby steps are better than no steps at all.
If your house is a mess, set the timer and clean for fifteen minutes. Then gradually increase the timer.
If your husband is mistreating you, make a plan. Find a counselor. Save money. Do what you have to do.
If you have an issue with money. Make small changes. Set a goal not to spend money for one day, then make it two. Reward yourself when you are successful.
If your friend is toxic, speak up. She may not realize that she is bothering you. Give her a chance to make it right. If nothing happens, then move on.
I’ve been guilty of all of these things. I had a choice. I could wallow in my issues, or I could choose to listen to my gut and forge ahead.
I’ve had more success than failures. I still catch myself complaining. It’s my Eyore personality. I’m working on it. You can too.
