Life and small problems

Your level of satisfaction gets lower by problems you face in your life.

I am not able to decide how I should put this one. Because this article is very very important to me and, in my mind, to all of us. I feel so because we all deal with a lot of problems in our lives, and they all affect our satisfaction level and how we’re going to end up in life.

All the problems that we call part of our lives are the reasons why we are so unsatisfied with our lives.

To understand this entire thing, you need to recall everything that has happened to you ever since you were born — I mean, when you became conscious of yourself. Like, physically, you’re male or female, trans or otherwise.

When you can tell your gender, you’re considered eligible for education and are approved for a school. And you can understand what it means to get into a school and start your pre-education. From there, everything starts.

We all learn most of the things in our schools, and everything that comes into our heads is from there alone. And those who fail to go to school learn their variations from life because, for them, their life and conditions are teachers.

So, every problem that you face today and the way you deal with it is already pre-decided in your pre-school.

How?

It’s not very hard to understand because school teaches you everything from treating people to the basic biology of your human body structure.

A lot of kids get bullied at school because of their body shape, their way of talking, and many other reasons. Therefore, these bullied students end up thinking that the world is not a good place and that people here are mean and don’t care for each other.

Some people manage to deal with these issues later in life, while others give up hope in school.

The same goes for every one of us. We all develop our thinking patterns based on previous life experiences.

How we treat people is pre-set, based on how they have treated us in the past. And it’s true for all of us and applies to every single being on this planet.

There are only a few people who treat others generously, even if others have done horrible things to them. Furthermore, it’s very hard to forget someone who has done something wrong to you. Because it kills us inside, we want to destroy that person because that is the only way to satisfy ourselves.

So, your happiness and your level of satisfaction are entirely dependent on how people treat you throughout your life journey.

When you get mistreated a lot, you end up losing your satisfaction level little by little. Later, that little becomes more and you start misbehaving with others to save yourself from mean people.

This is tit for tat. If you can’t change their behavior, change yours so that you can automatically keep some distance.

Why do we care so much about others’ opinions?

This is also taught to us at school. To live a good life, a person needs good food, a good family, and the most important thing, “respect” (proper treatment from other people) in society.

If a person has everything but people don’t treat him well, then it becomes difficult for him to live with those people. In that case, he wants to leave the place or the world. That’s why people commit suicide.

These things look small, and some might say they don’t care about others, but it’s our basic human nature that we all want good treatment from others and we want others to recognise us.

All our dreams are about recognition and fame. No one dreams about living in a corner of their home, and no one wants to be alone or lonely.

Still, people are lonelier than ever. They are not finding the perfect partners for themselves. If they have found one somehow, they can’t resist them.

Because every one of us is unsatisfied in one way or another. It’s not the fault of the new technology or other people, but the reason is that we are all ignoring the very basics of our lives.

We are all running without thinking, and the direction we are running is not fixed. We are just running, and we have a lot of information gathered in our heads with no conclusion.

All this information makes us judge other people and forces us to create differences all the time. We don’t want to see other people happy because their happiness makes us unsatisfied all the time. (I am not talking about all people, but most of them are like that).

Plus, there are other effects of an unsatisfied life. You see, people hate people of other nations even though they have nothing to do with them. Also, a lot of people hate influencers and creators for any sh*ty reason in their heads.

All this happens because they can’t tolerate other people’s success, and it’s a very common phenomenon today.

You have fewer haters when you are unsuccessful than when you’re successful.

Why do people hate other people’s progress?

There are so many reasons behind that, but I will discuss only the common ones that you have carried since your schooldays.

The first thing that we learn in school and that ruins our entire lives is comparison.

From schooldays to the end of your life, comparison hits us very badly. Plus, almost all the time, your happiness gets ruined when you compare yourself with others.

No one likes to be compared, yet we compare ourselves with others in our heads.

If you look at this world carefully, you’ll see that half of the problems are based on the comparison.

Comparison not only makes us more and more unsatisfied, but it also makes us depressed, and a lot of us don’t have a clue that we are comparing ourselves with others. Because this is happening unconsciously, it has been pre-set in our minds ever since we got into school, or should I say, ever since we started learning things.

Why?

Because we learned to compare things when we were young, it’s now part of our basic mentality.

I’m not saying comparison is bad — but when you do it too much, it begins to ruin everything in your head as well as your life.

With time, the comparison makes us more and more unsatisfied.

Also, the comparison is not just limited to things. It has now grown to the point where we compare things that we cannot change.

Like our body structure, the size of our body parts, etc.

There is so much bragging about how you should look, how your ass should look, how your penis should look, and how big it should be. If you don’t have a big one, then you can’t satisfy your partner.

Lies like this fill up your head — even though you know the basic reality behind all this.

Hey, reader! I want your full attention to the lines below.

Your body and mind behave according to what you think. Satisfaction is not about your body parts or how many possessions you have. It’s about what parameters you have set in your head for your satisfaction.

People are giving us so much misinformation. They are making us think that our things — body and mind — are not enough for us. And this is going so far that we are becoming more and more unsatisfied every single day by ourselves.

Therefore, these are all things that affect our lives in the long run, and we are all ruining the precious little time that we have got on this planet by thinking about how we should look instead of enjoying things and living our lives.

There is more to the story — our satisfaction level is now controlled by thoughts that are seeded into our heads.

And the irony is that these thoughts are not even real because thoughts can be manipulated. As things change, so do your thought patterns.

So you can’t always rely on your thoughts. Instead, you should create your thoughts (positive ones).

How can you deal with all this dissatisfaction?

It’s hard to change the status of problems in your life, but you’re still capable of changing your thinking pattern.

Once you manage to do that, you will see your satisfaction improve with time.

There is no other way to improve your satisfaction level. You need to work on your thoughts. Remember, this process is quite slow. Because you have taken so much time to become who you are today (in terms of thoughts), how you witness things and how you behave with people, all of this took so much time.

So, it will take the same amount of time to rehab everything in your head.

Furthermore, there is one more thing that you can do to make things better for yourself; start being a little bit more realistic instead of being a person who hopes too much.

Being realistic help. It connects you to your present life situations and allows you to deal with them accordingly.

According to some research, realistic people are happier as compared to optimists.

It’s because “realists make calculated moves based on scientific understanding and they accept themselves and the situations in their lives.”

They never worry about things that can’t be changed by normal means, and all these small factors make them happier.

Conclusion:

We all deal with a lot of problems daily, and sometimes these problems are fired at us by others. And we find ourselves incapable of overcoming these problems.

In such problems, nothing can be done because you can’t change how other people think. But half of the problem gets solved if you manage to face those problems and make yourself (in terms of mind) strong.

When your mind is strong, you can deal with a whole lot of issues without overthinking things.

Beacuse a strong mind is the solver of all problems, and a weak mind is the creator of all problems.

And how does your mind get stronger?

Simply by telling your mind that you’re strong and you can face anything that comes your way, and you have nothing to worry about, so just chill and face all the problems.

Thanks;) for reading.